What is Time Really?

Did you know that the word “time” has 11.5 billion hits on Google? That’s around five times more than “love” or “money”.  Apparently we care more about finding time than making love or money. Technology has brought us more opportunity to connect, but this is coming at the expense of our health, because in this digital world we are always contactable, and everyone demands our instant attention. As a result we have less and less “time” to relax and switch off. We become stressed, burned out, sick and as statistics prove, more depressed and anxious than ever before. Time poverty is an obsession.

Most people don’t realise that slowing down is actually the key to our productivity and progress, because they are programmed to believe that hard work equals success and money. So they plan the future and try to manifest what they want based on past performance, rather than feeling into what’s right for them in the present. Although everyone’s heard how important it is to live in the now, how many people are actually doing that? It’s not as difficult as it seems.

 The pre-frontal cortex of the brain, amongst other things is responsible for planning, decision making and forming strategies. However what you may not know is that when we are in meditation or any altered state it shuts down. It is impossible to calculate time so past experiences you may not want to repeat are forgotten and you are unable to plan the future because you can’t imagine it. It just becomes one big blurred “now”. This explains why a meditation or hypnotic experience feels a lot longer than what it really is. It also explains the behaviour of someone who’s affected by alcohol or drugs.

 The truth is the “now” is really all we have. Einstein always believed that time was not linear. He said that if you could build a rocket ship that travelled at the speed of light you could experience past, present and future simultaneously. We obviously can’t do that physically, however we can do it using our consciousness. Although this is often perceived as something that is just outside of the head, in fact consciousness can expand right out as far as you’re prepared to take it. And when you’re able to do that you can experience more events at the same time.

Have you ever considered that “intuitive messages” are actually just your future self knowing the outcome of what you’re about to do and guiding you accordingly? And do we manifest something because we focus on it, or are we just thinking of something that our future self already knows is coming?

Everyone has the same amount of “time” as everyone else but some people have the ability to use it more effectively and achieve more than others. This is all perception. We can speed it up or slow it down whenever we want to by using our consciousness. I’m sure you’ve had days when you’ve been able to fit in multiple tasks and other days when the time just goes and you’ve seemingly done nothing. And how fast does a day go by when you’re doing something exciting as opposed to one when you are doing something tedious and boring?

When we travel and have to keep changing our watches, I started to think about how we are all actually living in the now although some parts of the world are said to be in the future and some in the past? Regardless of what it says on a timepiece we all exist in the same moment.

Taking holidays is an excellent example of time slowing down. We seem to be able to fit in so much more in a day than when we’re at home. And by the end of the trip it feels like we’ve been gone for months. This is because we spend more time living in the now and not worrying about what we did before we left home or what we have to go back to.

Sightseeing and magical experiences are one thing, but imagine how much more relaxed and energised you would feel if you incorporated meditation into your travels. You would experience even more of that limitless “now”. When your mind is in an altered state you are also able to process billions of bits of information as opposed to the roughly 120 bits you have when in a conscious state, so there is so much scope for awareness and insight.

The world is full of incredible places you can go to experience timelessness. So find one, unplug from the world and check in with yourself. It’s amazing how much more progress you can make by just slowing down.


Own Your Weirdness


Are you experiencing feelings of doubt about who you really are? You’ve reached a point in your life when you thought you should have it all figured out, but you’re feeling unfulfilled because you know there must be more. But you don’t know what it is. Or maybe you do but you’re afraid of it.

 In other words you are waking up!

 This can have you feeling like you’re going crazy because suddenly your family and friends don’t understand you. Conversations with them result in frustration because you want to have deep and meaningful interactions, but everything is surface level. They’re talking about sports, the weather, the latest movie they watched, gossiping about other people while you sit there wondering how you ever found them interesting.

 This usually follows a period of inner exploration on what your true purpose really is in this lifetime. You may have discovered aspects of yourself that you didn’t realise existed, you may be finally acknowledging talents and gifts that you’d suppressed thinking they wouldn’t be accepted. You have a new path to follow but struggle to feel like you fit in anywhere.

 The trouble is that you’re afraid. Stepping outside the mainstream is scary because you don’t know what’s on the other side. A thousand doubts flood your mind, anything from “will I be able to support myself if I take on a new venture?” to “what if I lose all my friends?” to “is this real or just my ego tricking me into believing I’m capable of doing something great?”

 There could be past life or childhood traumas playing out in the subconscious that are preventing you from being who you want to be, but you’re not aware of them.

 You develop an internal battle between wanting to be mainstream and conforming to what you’ve always been comfortable with before, and wanting to be unique by taking a risk and breaking free of the shackles that are holding you back from having your dream life.

 It seems like everywhere you go, everyone else is normal except for you, but are they really? Look a little deeper and see if they are honestly happy? Sure they may appear to have success and stability in the eyes of society’s expectations, but are they just following the rules because they don’t know any other way? Do you think if they thought they had a choice, they would do things differently? 

 There are basically two kinds of people. The ones who follow the rules and the rebels.

 You may think it’s the rebels who break free from the system and create change. While that’s often true, I think change can just as easily be created by people who’ve always followed the rules. Let’s examine this.

 In my experience I was always one for following the rules and constantly sought approval to make sure I wasn’t doing the wrong thing. I realise now that I did this intuitively knowing that there was something inside me greater and more powerful than I could handle, and wasn’t ready to unleash it on the world, or even believe it was possible. So I always did what was expected of me because I feared the alternative. However, I soon learned you can’t do this forever because that inner calling is the reason you’re here. So you set about creating change in a loving way, using a softer approach that people would be more likely to accept.

 Then there are the rule breakers. I used to judge them, probably because deep down I wanted to be like them but didn’t have the courage. Rule breakers are the creative ones, the people who question everything and don’t accept what they don’t believe in. They come up with the big ideas and commit to implementing them at all costs because they believe so much in what they’re doing. They tell it how it is, offer tough love and they know that in order to create change, you have to bypass the systems.

 So you see, everyone is capable of being who they are and making a difference.

 The most empowering thing anyone ever said to me when I was going through my self-awareness crisis was “you’re not broken”. For a long time people thought I was weird because I was fascinated with exploring past lives, visiting psychic mediums, I believed in karma and manifestation, in fact loved everything alternative. These concepts are more accepted now because more people are being exposed to them and are finding answers to their big questions. This is because people like me have owned their weirdness and come out of the spiritual closet to teach others what they know. 

 It was during a pivotal time of my inner journey that I found myself at a seminar surrounded by other people like me, and knew this was my tribe. We were asked to consider that perhaps we were the gifted ones who were sane while everyone else living within their programming was insane. This was a huge moment for me. For the first time in my life I didn’t feel so alone and it was certainly the point when I realised that I deserved to be seen and heard. 

 I learned you don’t have to be a ground-breaking entrepreneur to make a difference in the world. We’re all here to play our part, no matter how small, using our gifts to contribute to the collective. You don’t always know where you fit in, but it doesn’t matter, just follow your path and it will be perfect. 

 The universe has your back. If it doesn’t seem to then perhaps you’ve gone off track. All you need to do is follow your intuition and stop listening to that annoying ego voice in your head. Seek out your tribe because they’re waiting to embrace you for who you are. You will speak to them soul to soul because you’re energetically connected and you will experience a far more meaningful connection than with the friends you’ve lost interest in. Don’t feel guilty about that either. It’s just growth. We all change so it’s only natural that some people fall away. Just let them go with love to discover their own path.

 Transcend the ego, draw on past life wisdom and future life direction in order to make an impact in the present. It’s all there inside you. Owning who you are and letting others see it is empowering for you and for them. Be the change you want to see in the world and you’ll encourage others to do the same.

Understanding Unconditional Love


Of all the journeys of life this is the most important one you can take. 

Love can be confusing because there are different kinds. It shouldn’t be, because really it’s the most basic of human desires – to love and be loved. Maybe it’s because we all feel it is something we deserve as a birth right (and it is), but it’s easy to become disillusioned when things don’t work out how we planned.

So what is this thing called love? Is it just a feeling? A feeling of gratitude, joy, warmth, belonging, pride, happiness, satisfaction, empathy, affection all rolled into one? I guess everyone has a different definition. I know it’s something that allows you to be selfless, to focus on the object of whatever it is that causes you to feel like that. And on the surface this is a good thing – but it can also be bad.

There are many different objects of our affections and love. Obviously a romantic partner, children and family are at the top of the list of people you would expect to love unconditionally – the kind of love that you give without any expectation of receiving anything in return. 

Let’s examine the different kinds of love in a little more detail.

Romantic love – The starting point for beginning a family. Everyone wants to experience it at some point, to find that one person who cherishes you, accepts you for all that you are, walks beside you as a partner and totally trusts and believes in you. Someone with whom you can share intimacy and your innermost secrets – who fills your cup and makes you feel whole. If you’re one of the lucky ones who can sustain this type of love through your lifetime, then you have probably mastered the art of loving unconditionally. But sadly, divorce statistics tell another story about romantic love.

Children – To me this is who I think of when I think about unconditional love. We give birth to them and attend to all their needs often at the expense of our own, despite the fact they are initially unable to give us any reward for our efforts. As they grow and develop, we teach them right from wrong, but if they stray from our guidance we are still prepared to forgive and support them no matter what. We understand it’s all part of growing up. We are so proud of them but know when to back off and let them make their own mistakes in order to learn their own lessons. Even if the relationship blows up somewhere along the line and we become estranged from our children, we never stop loving them.

Parents  – Your parents are your first role models of what’s it’s like to be loved. If this doesn’t happen as it unfortunately doesn’t with many people, then it can lead to a rather grim outlook of something that should come naturally. Assuming everything is normal however, our parents show us the unconditional love that is common between a parent and child so we go out in the world seeking to do the same thing one day. Although they may show us unconditional love, do we do the same for them or are our expectations too high?

Siblings – This kind of love can be a little more complicated. They can be very different people in personality and just their existence can teach us the negative emotions of jealousy and anger, as we fight for our place in the family, competing for our parent’s attention. Some siblings are the best of friends however and remain so for their entire lives. The interesting thing about these relationships is sibling love sometimes feels like an obligation – like you have to love them because you’re related. To me there are often conditions placed on sibling love.

Pets – This kind of love is definitely unconditional. The best example are dogs who are so faithful they will love you and be excited to see you every day, no matter what mood you’re in or what’s going on in your life. They just exist as a ball of pure joy to make you feel good. They seem to know when you need more love than usual and they give it to you. Even if they are mischievous, just like a young child, we forgive them.

Friends – The love we feel for our friends can often trump the love we feel for family members because we choose them. They are our support network who are there because they want to be and we love them in a different way. It is not the kind of romantic love we feel with a partner obviously, but just as special. There is a bond that encourages us to be there for each other through good and bad, offer advice and feel grateful for their care and attention. There is mutual enjoyment of what each side brings to the relationship through experience, conversation, advice, knowledge, fun and much more.

However, except for perhaps a few very close friends who remain embedded in our hearts for our entire lives, they tend to change. As we develop and mature we outgrow some friends. People who may once have been the centre of our social life may, after a few years, no longer fulfil our needs as we pursue different interests and go in other directions. 

This sounds harsh but as you experience more of life, new people come in and old friends fall away. So if you really examine it, friend love is not all that unconditional. We make an unconscious condition that we will love them for as long as we need them in our lives. It doesn’t take away from the specialness of what was experienced together, it’s just change and change is necessary for growth.

Other types of love are for places or situations. For example you may love being out in nature because it offers a sense of peace and unity. You may love visiting certain places in the world because you feel a connection or you appreciate the culture or customs. You may love your job because it makes you feel fulfilled and gives you a sense of purpose. Although you may think you love these things unconditionally, do you really? What if your experience of them somehow changes and lets you down? They cease to be special because there are conditions, criteria on what they need to be so they can be loved.

As you can see there are many types of love but we still often place conditions on them, whether we realise it consciously or not. How then is it possible to have all these different feelings of love and make them unconditional?

The answer to this may seem complicated but it is really simple. 

We show unconditional love to ourselves.

Unfortunately when talking about love, most people think outwardly about it rather than examining what should be the first object of their attention. Themselves.

I think many people confuse self-love with being selfish or self-centred. There’s a bit of a fine line it seems. I know when I was growing up it was unattractive to be someone who “loves themselves” because it usually came across as being superior to others.

We’re taught to love without judgement, although when we see things we don’t like it’s difficult not to judge. Those things we don’t like are reflections of things we don’t like in ourselves but we either do not realise that yet, or don’t want to face it. It’s normal to shy away from facing our shadows because we don’t want to admit that we have a dark side. 

We grow up being taught not to cry when we’re hurting, to be a nice person, to be considerate We’re taught not to feel anger, resentment, jealousy, hate, greed so when they rear their ugly heads in our own lives we think there’s something wrong with us, and how can you love something that exhibits so many negative emotions?

Consequently many, many people have low self-esteem and self-hate issues simply because they’re not taught how to love the uglier parts of themselves. We’re too busy trying to feel love for everyone and everything around us, that we struggle when this becomes difficult because there will always be people and situations that invoke negativity.

It doesn’t matter about all of these different kinds of love and trying to make them unconditional because we are always changing. Those people and things change too so really it’s impossible to go on feeling the same way about them no matter what happens. We can only control how we feel about ourselves and then everything else will reflect back to us. If we truly learn to love our shadow side then those negative things will no longer appear in front of us because we’ve made peace with them. And if we show love to ourselves, that’s what we will receive in return.

Think about when you witness a colourful sunset. How does it make you feel? For me it’s peace and gratitude for the beauty of Mother Nature at her finest. She’s showing that to me as a reflection – so I can recognise it in myself. The more you love yourself, the more beautiful experiences and people will come along into your life. 

When you love yourself unconditionally, you allow other people to love you that way as well. Realise that you can’t control everything. You have no control over some things because you were born that way. There’s no use hating your body shape or size, your hair, your skin – you have to love all of it because it’s part of you. All these things are not the real you anyway – they are just what was given to you. Love them and others will too.

Don’t push away or hide your feelings. Face them, understand them and deal with them before they suffocate you. Forgive yourself and know that you are always doing the best you can with the current state of awareness that you have. We are all perfect beings inside. Our soul knows this but it has to convince all the other parts of us that fight to keep us in doubt. Listen to your soul and don’t give power to the parts of you that try to bring you down. Accept them so they don’t control you anymore and you will find the balance you are looking for. 

Opportunities will come, and people will be attracted to you because you’ll become a mirror of what’s good inside them. 

And what a wonderful way to live!

Why New Year's Resolutions Don't Work


The silly season is over and for some, New Year’s resolutions were probably made. It’s a couple of weeks into 2019 and I wonder how many of you have already broken them. 

The problem with these resolutions is they are often goals made up through a thinking process rather than a feeling process.

I know this, because it’s exactly what I used to do. Every year I would take time out to slow down, reflect on my life and think about the direction I was headed. I would look back over the past year and think about what I learned, how I had grown and what still needed to be achieved. This seemed like a responsible and efficient process that would help me to plan my next moves. Surely I couldn’t fail if I put all this work into it.


This became a confronting exercise for me because it always seemed to show that I hadn’t done enough. The days and months had slipped away before I managed to help enough people or make the difference I wanted to make in the world. So I would plan for the following year with bigger and better goals to compensate for my perceived lack of results. 

I told myself I had to be busier and fit more into my already over-committed schedule to achieve the success I was looking for. The trouble was that although my intentions were honourable, the reality was there just weren’t enough hours in the day to fit everything in. Not without becoming a stressed out basket case anyway.

I am older and wiser now. 

I soon realised that being busier was not the answer. I learned that in order to achieve more, what was actually needed was for me to slow down. It is impossible to make a difference when you are burned out. In all of my planning, I never allowed enough time to just sit and contemplate. 

It had always felt like I was slacking off if I did nothing.

However, without going inside to connect with my heart and seeing what was there, I was missing the vital link to my success. Not only was I not honouring myself as a human being and understanding my true needs, I was not allowing time to explore my options – see if I was truly on the right path. 

It is so important to look after yourself before you can look after others. How can you make a difference to someone else if you don’t have your own act together?

I discovered that the more I slowed down and really felt into what I should be doing next, the insights I received were so much more relevant and helpful. Instead of being in my head all the time, when I started to feel instead of think, my body started to show me what I’d chosen to ignore. If part of me didn’t feel right, I intuitively explored the meaning behind it, and these physical cues became vital to my understanding of when something wasn’t going to work for me. 

For the first time, I experienced how the mind, body and soul all work together, and between them knew much more than my ego did.

We are constantly surrounded by situations and people who are all there to distract us from our real purpose. They sometimes allow us to doubt our own abilities and it’s so easy to become caught up in that uncertainty. This can then lead to a belief that we are not capable. This is all just unnecessary noise, which overwhelms the silence within – the place where we discover the truth when we stop for long enough to listen.

Everybody knows in their own hearts what is truly best for them. The trouble with not trusting our own intuition is we often think our way out of doing the most empowering things for our growth, especially if it’s going to be hard. 

Sometimes it is necessary to do things that our logical mind doesn’t think are right, but it doesn’t have all the information. Only our heart knows what’s really going to work, and if growth has to be preceded by discomfort, then we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable because this is what will set us free.

We are all doing the best with what we have. Everything in life happens in divine timing so if you haven’t achieved everything on your list by the end of the year, don’t stress. It is probably because you are trying to do too much too soon - before you are ready. Perhaps you need to work on mindset first, let go of unconscious beliefs that have blocked you from making progress. The work you do on your personal growth is vital to the success of whatever it is you’re doing to make a living or to reach your ultimate personal goals. 

These days I look back over my year and am grateful for all the little things that happened because I can piece them together and understand how my journey is evolving. I see the big picture and I know I will only be given as much as I can handle as I navigate along my path. 

It’s all a process, but will happen faster if you can gain more self-awareness.

So if you don’t make it to the end of January without feeling inadequate, please don’t beat yourself up. Instead, give yourself a reassuring pat on the back that you are perfect just the way you are, and whether you realise it or not, you are already going through the motions of fulfilling the life purpose you chose before you were born. You set that intention and are always working towards it. The time frame and the method will just depend on your approach.

It is more satisfying to create your dream life through trust and acceptance rather than struggle and burnout. Don’t listen to other people – they all have their own agendas. The only person who’s going to get you to the finish line is you, so believe in yourself and your abilities. 

Always remember your heart knows what’s best for you and if you listen to it, then the personal freedom and fulfillment you crave can be yours.

What is your gift?


Think back to your childhood. Can you remember what you liked to do the most? 

I liked to climb trees, go for walks in the bush, hide and stalk other people. It was fun to follow someone silently without them knowing I was there. 

I used to look for rocks and collect the most interesting ones, sometimes sharpening them to make them look like arrowheads. 

I sucked the honey-flavoured nectar out of flowers that grew near our house and loved to pick the mulberries off trees during the summer. I had an insatiable curiosity about what different plants and flowers could be used for medicinally.

I thought this sort of behaviour was something all kids liked, but my best friend was more interested in playing with dolls – something I could never relate to because it didn’t involve playing outdoors. 

It did not occur to me until years later that these early interests probably related to my past life as an American Indian medicine woman. It hit me when I went to the Museum of Natural History in New York that was full of Native American cultural artefacts. It was all so familiar to me and I knew innately what everything was used for. It’s no wonder I was drawn to natural healing. 

Travelling is a great way to trigger memories and de ja vu experiences which all offer insight into what path to take this time around.

It is helpful to look into your childhood for clues as to who you may have been before. Talents can come to the surface very early, particularly in music and art. Children can remember their last incarnation up until about the age of seven. For others it takes longer.

The activities we are drawn to such as playing with chemistry sets, pulling things apart and putting them back together, cooking, dancing, catching and examining insects, learning other languages – are all pursuits that can help to reveal a previous life occupation.

You may be drawn to a particular career because of talents you already brought with you. Or sometimes you ignore these talents, believing that they’re not something you can earn a decent living from. This belief often starts with well-meaning parents or the education system, but if you do something you were born to do, you’ll never work a day in your life.

How many people do you know of who’ve had successful mid to late life career changes because they finally decide to follow a passion that’s always been inside them? Using your innate gifts is the key to happiness and fulfillment. When you follow your true path the Universe will support your decision by placing synchronistic opportunities right in front of you so that everything falls seamlessly into place. 

Take time out to play. Reconnect with that beautiful inner child who remembers what you’re here for. Your soul knows, but you need to slow down long enough to discover the real you. And if you’re feeling drawn to a particular destination – don’t ignore the calling. It’s probably a vital piece of the puzzle that completes your life purpose.


Powerful Places


Have you ever been to a place that totally humbled and inspired you?

Some years ago I visited the Northern Territory and the Kimberley in Western Australia. Part of our journey was on the Tanami, a long, rough, dusty road through the outback wilderness of northern Australia. The night we camped out there, 450 kms from civilisation, was one of the most powerful experiences of my life.

It was the first time I’d ever experienced nature in full force. Yet it was nothing to do with any kind of natural weather event. It was just being present within an environment where nothing was man-made and we were at the mercy of the elements. The energy of this place was formidable and it was impossible not to feel swallowed up by it.

It was the overwhelming silence and vastness that made me realise that humans are so vulnerable and really just an infinitesimal part of a much greater cosmos. The huge night sky sparkled with millions of pin pricks of starry light that brought the rest of the Universe closer, the Earth seemed to hum with its own heartbeat, the trees towered majestically above us holding space, and the spinifex that engulfed our campsite was a reminder to not wander around blindly without direction.

The haunting, distant howl of a dingo was the only sound that intermittently pierced the silence. I had such a sense of overwhelming peace and comfort. It felt like the energy of the Earth became part of me that night, putting everything into perspective and allowing me to realise that in the greater scheme of things, humans are not really in control.

I know now that the feeling we sometimes have of not belonging or being disconnected from the world is really because we are disconnected from the Earth. If you want to gain a higher understanding of yourself, go and immerse yourself in nature.

Around the globe there are many famous sites well known for offering energetic experiences that allow you to connect with your higher self. Places where the veil between heaven and earth is thinner. I have visited some of these sites, and they are certainly incredible and worth visiting, but I’ve also experienced this in simpler places closer to home, my own powerful places that have become special to me.

There is no doubt that connecting with nature opens the heart and brings clarity to the mind. When you align with this greater force, it’s much easier to understand your true purpose and feel inspired to make a difference. You find yourself looking for ways to fulfil your greatest dreams and desires, because deep inside you know what you’re really here for and if you follow the right path, you can’t really go wrong.

The Earth is definitely something to be respected. I know that Mother Nature is totally in control of her own destiny and moves through the natural re-birthing cycles that have existed since the beginning of time and will continue to do so long after we are gone.

Nature provides a smorgasbord of beautiful opportunities to connect and the best thing we can do is show respect for her power while gratefully utilising her wisdom.

So I’d love to know - have you found your special place?

Exploring Elemental Magic


Do you feel most comfortable when out in nature, and passionate about protecting it? 

Are you connected to animals, would take in every stray if you could and wouldn’t dream of killing an errant spider or bug that wandered into your home?

Are you highly sensitive but also fun-loving and a little mischievous?

If this sounds like you then there’s a good chance that you are an incarnated elemental.

Elementals are commonly known as mythical creatures such as fairies, elves, gnomes, unicorns and mermaids which are ethereal, therefore largely invisible to most people. However they are responsible for the calm and connected feelings you have when surrounded by nature. Compare this to how you feel in a bustling city street (where elementals do not like to go) and you notice a much lower vibration. Although you can’t see them, they are powerful beings responsible for protecting and maintaining the plant and animal kingdoms.

16th century Swiss alchemist Paracelsus identified the four main archetypes as belonging to each of the four main elements. Gnome was of the Earth, Undine of the Water, Sylph of the Air and Salamander of Fire. These magical creatures live among trees and plants, in lakes and rivers, oceans and mountains. Their forms vary between different folklore and alchemy within these elements, with some being more common than others, but they have appeared to exist since the beginning of time.

Elementals vibrate at a higher level which is why they are invisible to many, and they vary in size depending on the roles they play. Generally they are quite child-like and love to focus on play and fun, often playing tricks on others. Many children are able to seem them because they have such open minds and also share these characteristics. Their belief often disappears as adults tell them they’re not real.

It is only the more evolved of the elementals that can incarnate into human form because they learn to become more serious and realise that as protectors of Mother Earth, they have a bigger job to do educating humans on how to interact with nature and prevent them from destroying it. This makes them very passionate and committed about achieving their purpose. You will find these people at environmental rallies, beach clean-up days, picking up litter, involved in animal rescue.

I’m sure everyone has had a magical experience in nature, whether it’s leaning against the trunk of a beautiful tree, being awestruck by the sight of a powerful waterfall, swimming in a crystal clear stream, watching a thunderstorm roll in over the mountains, enjoying a colourful sunset, witnessing the power of the ocean as waves break on the beach, staring into a campfire. Elemental beings are part of all these experiences and are there to help us. All we need to do is keep an open-mind and see things from a different perspective when we’re in their environment, then we will start to see them everywhere, perhaps even hear them.

Next time you’re out in nature, look carefully and see if you can notice this unseen world. Magic is all around us and whether or not you believe you are an incarnated elemental on a mission or just someone who enjoys the energy of the four elements, take time to relax and absorb what the natural world has to offer. It really is the ultimate wellbeing experience.

Why Visit a Sacred Site


Research has shown that there is a definite trend away from taking annual vacations to do nothing but lie on a beach and relax while sipping cocktails. While there’s nothing wrong with this, increasingly as people awaken and become more aware of the natural world, there is a stronger desire to enrich the soul by visiting sacred sites. 

There are many energetically powerful places around the world that offer spiritual experiences and religious pilgrimages which help visitors to find more meaning in their lives. For example, many sacred shrines and temples hold healing energies because they are visited by thousands of people who use them for meditation and prayer, and have also been visited and blessed by saints and holy people. It is common to hear of miracles occurring at such sites.

Nature itself provides an abundance of healing energies and vortexes in certain destinations, many of which are well known. Mysteries surround places like Sedona in the USA, Lake Titicaca in Peru, Mt Kailash in Tibet and Uluru in Australia, to name a few. The extraordinary energies that exist in these places can lead to highly significant experiences for an individual who becomes aligned with their energies, with many life-changing results having been reported. They bring heaven and earth closer together and visiting them offers an easier way to connect with the inner self.

However, any place can offer an allure because of a specific personal attraction. This could be because of a known ancestral or past life experience there or just something about it that draws a person’s attention for no obvious reason. We all have unconscious memories, so the places we develop a desire to visit can be quite outside of our awareness, we just know the pull is strong. 

You don’t have to walk the Camino to have a personal pilgrimage (although I can recommend this, having done it myself). It’s just a matter of visiting somewhere that has a personal significance for you, and you can have that life-changing experience by just following your own intuition.

The important thing is that you go to where you are drawn, you connect with the higher consciousness of this physical place, and draw from it the wisdom and energy that it offers. Travelling to a sacred site is a special experience and guaranteed to provide a deeper insight into your spiritual purpose and offer the peace and fulfillment we all crave.

Who Loves Travelling?



As you live your life you’re writing a story. The people you connect with become characters within this story and the places you visit are the scenes. Travelling opens us up to a wealth of valuable experiences. We get to learn about new cultures, be awestruck by the beauty of different landscapes, do things you may never have tried before and taste new cuisines. There is nothing like the spirit of adventure to inspire and enrich your soul. To me travelling is expansive for the mind, opening you up to understand the way different people live, and the more different that is from your own life, the better. We are a diverse planet of people and places and there is so much to explore. 

I’ve travelled all over the world and it has become my number one value. It fact it seems that most people have a bucket list. I feel so grateful to have had the experiences I’ve had and they’re not over yet! I believe that more and more people are seeking meaningful journeys, pilgrimages and visits to destinations that uplift and offer more than just shopping, eating and sightseeing. 

Over the past few years I have made a point of visiting places that I’ve been connected with in past lives. This can happen spontaneously as it did the first time I landed in London and burst into tears, with an overwhelming feeling of coming home. I was only 19 then. Or it can be more deliberate such as when I visited the parks and canyons of the US seeking my native American roots and visiting Salem where I’d had a life during the witch trials. The emotional reaction to that journey left me in no doubt that I was remembering something very real.

There are many energetically powerful places in the world to visit, even if they are only significant to you, and I urge you to enrich your life by delving deep into new experiences and cultures. It really helps to put things into perspective, not to mention that spending time away from the stresses of your daily life allows you to relax and open you up to new possibilities. Most of my goals and decisions on what to do next in my life have manifested after some kind of travel experience. This doesn’t have to be a complicated overseas trip. Have a look in your own backyard and you will see that possibilities for a magical adventure are right there, particularly in Australia where there are so many hidden gems of beauty and empowerment to be discovered.

How are you going to add to your story? I’d love to know where in the world your soul is calling you to visit.

Do You Nurture Yourself?


I recently got to really understand the importance of unconditional self-love. 

As life goes on and you’re faced with challenging situations, It’s so easy to accumulate guilt inside you for the way you handle some of these situations. At the end of the day we’re all human, therefore not perfect. We are learning all the time and the way we deal with things comes down to what we believe is the right course of action at the time for all concerned.

It’s only later when we witness the fallout of our not-so-perfect actions that we can develop regrets. But there is no value in holding on to regret. I know in my case, I never set out to intentionally hurt anyone, but sometimes the way I handled some situations was a survival mechanism for me which caused other people pain. 

These types of actions are motivated by the need to honour ourselves, but then you begin to feel selfish for making yourself feel better at the expense of someone else, even if you think it was warranted at the time. This then stops you from feeling as though you can give time to yourself because you’re trying to compensate for your mistakes by giving, giving, giving to everyone else.

I believe that guilt is anger turned inwards on ourselves and it is so destructive. You don’t even realise but it stores itself deep inside and you become unaware that you’re even holding onto it. It causes you to stop enjoying life and with time you can’t even really pinpoint where it all started. You just know that you’ve developed some level of self-hate without really understanding why.

Hanging on to guilt and regret depletes your levels of happiness, which in turn also hurts others, particularly those who are closest to you, those who just want you to be happy.

If you really want to stop hurting others, you need to heal yourself. This is not selfish. It is actually the only way to become the person that other people want to love and spend time with. It is impossible to love someone else fully if you can’t first love yourself. No amount of kindness, care or generosity has value if you can’t offer yourself the same thing.

So start with self-nurture. It may seem like a good idea to put everyone else ahead of your own needs but it doesn’t work. It is not selfish to look after yourself first. You can’t help anyone else if you’re broken.

It could be as simple as giving yourself alone time to do whatever feels good. What would this look like to you? It could be taking a long bath, reading a book that stimulates your brain, listening to soothing music, taking a long walk in nature – anything that energises you and fills you up.

When you feel good inside and start to love and appreciate yourself for the incredible human being that you are, and know that you have so much to offer, only then can you move on to supporting others.


Time to Surrender


Do you think we are all in control of our destiny? 

I have been pondering this question for quite some time and reflecting back on my own life. I’ve always been one for trying to make things happen – things I think are what I most need. Things that I think I want, only when I get them, realise that often I don’t care about them anymore. So then I go in search of the next shiny object to fulfil a sense of renewed purpose.

What I’ve come to understand is that we are always striving to achieve something but its really more about the journey, not the destination. For when we reach the goal, it may feel rewarding for a time but then we just want more. No matter what we have or what we aspire to be, it is never enough.

Perhaps this is just human nature.

However, as I’ve grown older I’ve become complacent. I’m not the person I imagined myself to be 20 years ago. So much has changed and I’ve grown in ways I couldn’t even have conceptualised back then. My circumstances have thrown adversity at me that I would never have expected, but I’ve come through it mostly unscathed. So obviously these lessons were meant for me. I didn’t consciously choose them, but my unconscious mind knew better because it contains a higher understanding that I’d not tapped into.

Although my mind constantly nags me to do more and be more so that I can make a difference in the world to at least some people, I’m tired of doing that. When I look back at everything that’s happened to me I know that I haven’t been in control at all. I’m just in the exact place I’m supposed to be whether or not I put any effort into it. Everything that’s happened is part of a bigger picture plan. Sure, we have free will, but I think it’s limited and only enough to have us believe that we are in control.

So I’ve decided its time to slow down and surrender. I don’t have to save the world if that’s not what I’m here for. I love to help people, it fills my heart and soul with joy to make a difference but I think I’m going to be more selective and not burn myself out trying to be everything to everyone. From now on I’m going to use my heart and body to feel what’s right. Follow my intuition alone. I know there is a guiding force behind everything I do so I’m going to stop fighting and just allow whatever is meant to happen to happen, because it’s going to anyway.

And you know what? It feels so liberating.

Love Yourself First


As humans it is easy for us to blame others when things go wrong. This is because it’s hard to admit we’ve made an error of judgement and face the consequences of what people might think or say. But remember, nobody is perfect and making mistakes is actually a valuable part of life.

What I have come to realise is even if we do blame others, we are actually angrier with ourselves, we just aren’t ready to own it yet. Blame is just delaying the inevitable realisation that we are not perfect. Although we may like to think we are doing the right thing all the time, the reality is that instead of understanding that it’s OK to make a mistake, our confidence takes a hit and we privately beat ourselves up. To me this shows that our natural state is actually to respect and even love who we are, but over time (and more mistakes and criticism from others), people can sometimes start to doubt themselves, which leads to a lack of self love. 

Most people I meet have issues with self esteem. When I was growing up in my all-girls school environment, those who were most criticised were usually described as someone “who loves herself”. If you think about it, that should not be a bad thing, although in that context it usually meant they were self-centred, only caring about themselves and not about anyone else. But that language started to tell people that it was inappropriate to show the world that you valued yourself as a person.

We are all connected and all part of the human family. When you hurt someone else, it comes back to you as well. So it makes sense that if more people loved themselves, they would be able to spread more love into the world and make others feel good about themselves. Loving and appreciating yourself for who you are is the easiest way to change the world. 

It’s hard to love other people unless you can learn to love yourself first, so if you’re frustrated because you haven’t met your ideal partner or found friends that you resonate with, take a look at the relationship you have with yourself. Your outer world is definitely a reflection of your inner world.

I don’t believe anyone is born “bad”. The way we turn out is a reflection of our environment and beliefs. Those beliefs come from early childhood and it is possible to change them. The simplest comment from a parent or teacher can create an unconscious belief that can potentially destroy a person’s self esteem later in life. We need to stop this cycle of feeling like we don’t deserve to be happy, successful or be who we really want to be.

The only thing you need to do is love yourself for who you are. Look for the good points, recognise the mistakes you’ve made and how you’ve learned from them or done something to turn them around. There is good in everyone, we all have a unique gift to share, so you owe it to yourself to recognise and embrace your magnificence. 


Your Authentic Self


We spend so much time doing and not just being.

I grew up being taught you had to work hard if you want to make it in this world. So I basically found the career path my parents suggested for me. I looked up to and respected them so it didn’t occur to me to question their choices. They always had the best intentions for me, and why wouldn’t they? They were loving parents.

This was the 70’s and choices for females are not what they are today. There were only a few career paths you could take and I actually thought I was really grateful landing a job in the travel industry (taking after my parents).

Don’t get me wrong. That was an amazing time in my life and was what gave me the ability and desire to travel the world when I was young. To be truthful, I only stopped doing travelling to have a family, but now they’ve grown up all I want to do is continue that journey.

I had other jobs as well but nothing that ever really lit the fire inside me. I became conditioned to doing whatever I could to make ends meet, and if it wasn’t perfect, I guess I believed I was doing the best I could with what I knew. It didn’t occur to me back then, like it does now, to think outside the box – take different paths of action.

This was exhausting especially after I became a single mum of three kids. I felt guilty if I wasn’t doing something all the time towards earning a living, cooking, cleaning, ensuring my kids were happy and doing what they loved, satisfying everything and everyone else except for me.

Then I woke up.

I decided it was time to nurture myself a little, hence I started to take on activities that fed my soul, got myself into networks of like-minded people who encouraged me to play a bigger game in life and more importantly to find that thing that feeds my soul.

I’m so grateful for everybody who has come and gone in my life, the ones who are still with me and for every experience, good and bad, that I’ve ever had.

I am living my truth now and I’ve let go of expectations of how situations have to go, and just allowing and trusting that I’ll be looked after if I am just my authentic self, living the way I intended when I was born into this world.

There really is no other way to be, so if you’re finding yourself doing too much, thinking too much, worrying too much, just slow down and simply be in your heart and watch the magic that is the inner you unfold.


We Are All Powerful Creators


Did you know that up to the age of 12 you are the product of whatever you’ve heard and learned from your parents, teachers, family, friends, anyone who has any kind of influence over you? And in your experience, do you think most people are empowered by that age to go out and be the best version of themselves they can possibly be?

Unfortunately, in today’s society most of us are bred to be mediocre. Parents and grandparents have often been through hard times and they project that fear onto their children. This is where you see parents telling their kids that money doesn’t grow on trees, they’re no good at something, you can’t make a decent living doing that, sit down and stop making a spectacle of yourself.  They stifle their child’s natural personality if it seems too different from the norm. Perhaps they don’t really mean to do this, or even know how young a child can be influenced by the slightest negative comment from an adult.

After the age of 12 is when we start to think for ourselves. Often teenagers with radical thoughts and ideas are labelled as being non-conforming when really they could just be starting to exercise their own brain muscle for the first time. Too many teenagers are shut down for their thinking because it clashes with the programming they’ve been exposed to since birth and sadly, 90% of the time, the negative side wins.

Why is it that we are so afraid of not fitting in to what we’re told is “normal”? And what gives anyone the right to decide what is normal and what isn’t?

I have met many many people throughout my life who are so gifted in areas that others believe are weird, useless, dangerous or even evil. This usually applies to people with spiritual gifts, scientists, thought leaders and creative business people. Unfortunately, fear seems to hold many people back from being open to doing things differently from what the education system teaches. So they go through life being stifled and hiding rather than embracing what they’re here to do and prove everyone wrong.

The majority of the most influential people of our time have been ridiculed and labelled as crazy because of their beliefs. Imagine if they actually listened to their naysayers. Without these incredibly gifted people ignoring their critics we wouldn’t have electricity, telephones, aircraft, space travel, computers, in fact most of the technology that’s around today and more.

The moral of this story is please do not stifle the abilities of children or indeed anyone who is prepared to step out of the programming and be a true expression of themselves. Without them there would be no progress.

Every single person on this planet is unique and has a special talent to share. This is never going to happen as long as they are shut down and ridiculed. It is up to everyone as a collective to help each other do what they are here to do before they die.

Time is an Illusion


Have you ever noticed yourself saying “I don’t have time”?

I know I used to do that constantly. It seemed like there were never enough hours in the day to go to work, spend time with family, do stuff for myself and still have energy left over. I felt like a mouse on one of those spinning wheel things.

Then it all changed.

I began to realise that time is an illusion and if want to we can bend it. I’m sure you’ve experienced an exciting day in your life when 8 or 9 hours slipped past and it felt like only one hour. Or perhaps when you were looking forward to something, the days and hours seemed to drag on forever before the event was there. Time is all relative, hence Einstein’s theory of relativity.

Einstein believed that everything happens simultaneously and if you were to have a rocket ship that could travel at the speed of light you would experience past, present and future all at once, as opposed to someone who’s just standing on the ground.

But obviously we don’t have a rocket ship – however we do have our consciousness.

It is possible to time travel to the past, present and future by expanding your consciousness. You can then see quite clearly every experience you’ve had and will have and can relate these experiences to what’s happening now.

I know people say, “what’s the point of seeing past lives, they’re in the past, all that matters is the present”.

I agree with that, because all we have is the now, but past and future are all part of it. So it’s really pointless to dwell on the past and obsess about the future because we’ve already created them and are living them simultaneously.

However, most people don’t have the ability to consciously see everything happening at once, so this is where travelling within our minds to the past or future can explain and clear things that are blocking the now from happening the way we want them to.

As far as not having enough time in a day, if you have lots of things you have to get done, just ask for more time. Just ask, set intentions and the universe will provide. You’ll be amazed how much you can achieve and when you look at your watch you’ll think that time must have stood still for a while.

Like I said – time is an illusion.


Why Gratitude?


Approaching the end of another year always makes me reflect on what I’ve achieved over the past 11 months. The older I get the faster the years seem to go by and the less I seem to care about the tangible things I achieved. Sure, I worked hard and had some financial rewards. But is that really what I was proud of?

These days what I’m most proud of are the blessings I find myself writing in my gratitude journal each day. The little things that make such a difference to me even if it’s just a smile or a kind word from a stranger. Or my clients who open up to me and allow my help. Or the special friends who listen while I pour my heart out to them when things aren’t going well. Or to family for just being there and loving me unconditionally.

There are physical things too. Like the birds who wake me up every day with their song, the plants and trees that ground me when I go walking in the morning, the sun on my back, the wind in my hair, the beautiful beaches here in Queensland, the cozy and comfortable home I live in.

I could go on forever about all the things I’m grateful for, but I won’t. All I really want to say is that having gratitude is what keeps my heart open and attracts more of the things that are important to me. I know that many people talk about it and we all know how powerful it is, but how many actually practise gratitude everyday?

It can be one of those things you know you should do, but like so many other things, gets forgotten in the busyness of a day. Sometimes we just need to slow down and not do so much. If you don’t allow time for self reflection, it’s easy to miss the miracles that are all around you.

So as we enter into another festive season, I just want to ask you to look inside your heart and recognise what’s really important – the things that you may sometimes take for granted. Then count your blessings and hug your family and friends just a little bit tighter.

The world around you is full of magical moments if you just stop to notice them.

Have a wonderful Christmas and I hope 2018 brings you everything your heart desires.

Embrace the Real You


You are perfect just the way you are!

I am noticing more and more that people are so hung up on appearances. It’s as if they need to have the perfect body shape, expensive hairstyle, latest fashion items to feel validated. There’s nothing wrong with being confident and having a healthy respect for your presence in the world, but this should never be a mask for how you really feel about yourself. You should not hide behind these idealised images of perfection so that the world doesn’t get to see the real you, flaws and all, because the truth is that none of us are perfect. It’s OK to be vulnerable and exposed.

I believe that every person is special and has a beautiful gift to share with humanity. We came into this life for a purpose and our journey is all about finding out what that is and achieving it, whether we realise it or not. For some people it’s really obvious, but for others it’s more of a struggle because they fight it. We are subjected to so much conditioning by parents, teachers, governments, corporations, media and even well meaning friends, that beliefs form in the unconscious mind which sabotage our self confidence and we don’t even realise how they affect our choices.

What happens is that many people go through life constantly trying to fit in with what they are taught is “normal”, rather than listening to their nagging inner voice that’s trying to lead them in a different direction from what they’re comfortable with. Even though on some level they know what they should be doing, it all seems too hard to break out of the mould and become someone different. This is what causes those feelings of being lost and unfulfilled – that knowingness that you are capable of so much more. And this is not going to be solved by buying expensive clothing and spending hours in the gym sculpting yourself into a perceived version of what you think the world wants you to be. You can't hide

What the world really wants are people who are authentic. I am committed to helping others find that special gift inside of them and have the courage to break of their comfort zones and embrace that purpose. This is the only real path to total fulfilment. So love yourself honestly and completely for who you are, no matter what shape or size, because we all need you. Your body is just the temporary vessel that is carrying around the most empowered and all knowing part of you -  your soul.


Why The Lessons?


Do you ever wish for a lesson-free month? Just one month where everything goes smoothly. You’re not putting out fires at work, struggling with health or finances, having relationship conflicts. I know I do, even though I know better. I get it – struggle isn’t easy.

When we are born we choose the type of life we want and the lessons we want to learn. People say to me “why would I choose this for myself?” The answer I give is that a life on earth offers the greatest opportunities for growth. So the more advanced we become, we choose lives that are going to challenge us and help us progress faster through our spiritual journey.

I realised the other day that although plenty of really positive things have happened for me this year, there have also been some really negative challenges as well. This is the balance of life. We have to experience both sides. The best way to get through those challenging times is to look for the lesson and learn from it. I know it’s hard when things aren’t going to plan to remain positive and focused, but you just need to remember that everything that happens to us is part of a plan. We just can’t see the whole picture yet.

You know how you look at your life sometimes and think about how you overcame some stressful situation which was devastating at the time, but now seems almost like a blessing because it created a different mindset or led you down an unexpected and more fulfilling path. There are no accidents. Embrace the bad times and be grateful for the good times. That’s all you can do.

Don’t put up a fight. Accept the challenges and overcome them. You know they won’t be so bad once they’re over, so use the opportunity to have an experience that will teach you something valuable or make you a better person. If you learn the lesson they are there to teach, then you won’t have to continue going through these problems. If you ignore the learnings, unfortunately you will get more of the same until you change something.

Remember, all the answers are within, so if you really want to understand why something is happening to you, go inside, access your higher self and have a deep and meaningful conversation. You’ll be surprised at what you could find out. And you’ll realise that you should never give up because you’re not given something to overcome that you’re not ready for.

Children and Past Lives

Did you know that up until around the age of seven a child can still remember their last incarnation? The subconscious mind does not kick in until roughly that age so a child that young cannot be hypnotised because they can remember everything anyway.

You may have noticed young children often have an understanding of things they have never been exposed to. I once knew a three year old child who described to her mother one day how when she died they opened up her body, took out all the organs and replaced them with seeds. Then they wrapped her in bandages and buried her in a big room. Her stunned mother, albeit fascinated by the account, was a little worried about how she knew about such things when she had never seen a book or a TV show about ancient Egypt. A little research revealed that this method of embalming using seeds only took place for a short time in Egyptian history and only for royalty. The strange thing was when this child was born, her mother always felt that she had to give her a regal sounding name, so called her Natasha.

There are hundreds of stories like this one. The point of this story is that if you have a child who starts to talk about their previous experiences, it is nothing to be afraid of. Some children can bring the emotion and distress of a sudden death from a previous life to this one, so the best way to deal with it is to listen and help them by explaining that it is from the past and can’t hurt them anymore. Perhaps they haven’t yet realised they are in a different body now, so just listen and be understanding. Introduce them fully to their new life and make them feel loved and supported.

Unfortunately, a young child telling stories like this is seen as just their imagination and adults don’t tend to take them seriously. I believe that imagination is based on real experiences that we are not aware of. Many children also have imaginary friends who they talk to. These could be anyone from a passed loved one, a guide or someone from a past life they are still communicating with. This is also not cause for concern and should preferably not be discouraged as it so often is. My own daughter had an imaginary friend who was very real to her. We used to make him morning tea and strap him into his seat belt in the car when we went out. He seemed a great comfort to her so I never told her that he wasn’t real. To this day, although she doesn’t remember the details about him or who he was, she does remember that feeling of security she always had around her and thanks me for believing in him.

By the time children go off to school and their subconscious minds become activated, all of these memories and experiences will disappear. They will have current life experiences to learn and remember so these past experiences are not in the forefront any more. It is so important to the wellbeing of a child to support them in their beliefs and offer encouragement and understanding. This will prevent any unhelpful subconscious blocks developing in them that they are somehow not normal, which could affect them later in life.

Your Money Mindset

What is your relationship with money? Does it make you feel safe when you have it, does it bring you happiness, does it make you feel powerful, do you like to hoard it for a rainy day? Does a lack of it send you into bouts of depression and struggle?

One thing is certain, no matter how you feel about it, we all need it to survive.  There is so much focus on it that many see it as being evil and disruptive. That it somehow changes personalities and brings out the bad side in the people who have a lot of it. At the end of the day money itself is just energy. How we feel about it and use it is what gives it the reputation.

We are all taught to get an education, work hard and save for the things we want. Some end up becoming affluent while others don’t. Have you ever stopped to consider that those who struggle with earning enough money are not necessarily any less intelligent or capable than those who seem to do it easily? Perhaps they are not quite as driven to be a high achiever, but I believe everyone is capable of attracting the abundance they deserve. So why is it there are so many people who sabotage their ability to find financially security?

The answer is in the subconscious. We don’t realise it consciously but we can create money blocks that tell us “money is the root of all evil”, probably instilled at an early age by our parents, teachers, or other key people in our lives. It is not intentional but can you ever remember being told “money doesn’t grow on trees” if you asked for something, or “that costs too much, you don’t need it”? 

Where they were probably just trying to teach us not to be wasteful, in fact we received a different message, that on some level we were undeserving. We may even have overheard our parents worrying about how to pay for something or comparing costs when buying something. All of these types of events become ingrained in our thinking to the point that we may believe we can’t have what we want. That somehow it’s greedy and wrong to have a lot of money.

Also consider that these blocks could have come from even further back, from a previous life. Many of my clients find they have lived in poverty in past lives, and while that may have been a lesson for them at the time, they never let go of that mindset. It also used to be common for people to set poverty vows which can then be carried into subsequent lifetimes unless something breaks them.

The good news is that you can fix all of this. Past life regression can help to recognise where this poverty mindset comes from. Before this process it is helpful to write down all the negative comments you remember about money from your childhood, and events where there was some kind of money issue, particularly those that still cause you to have an emotional response or bad feeling somewhere in your body. We can then work on clearing away these blocks from the subconscious through varying techniques so they do not continue to sabotage your prosperity.

What is your money mindset?