What is your gift?

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Think back to your childhood. Can you remember what you liked to do the most? 

I liked to climb trees, go for walks in the bush, hide and stalk other people. It was fun to follow someone silently without them knowing I was there. 

I used to look for rocks and collect the most interesting ones, sometimes sharpening them to make them look like arrowheads. 

I sucked the honey-flavoured nectar out of flowers that grew near our house and loved to pick the mulberries off trees during the summer. I had an insatiable curiosity about what different plants and flowers could be used for medicinally.

I thought this sort of behaviour was something all kids liked, but my best friend was more interested in playing with dolls – something I could never relate to because it didn’t involve playing outdoors. 

It did not occur to me until years later that these early interests probably related to my past life as an American Indian medicine woman. It hit me when I went to the Museum of Natural History in New York that was full of Native American cultural artefacts. It was all so familiar to me and I knew innately what everything was used for. It’s no wonder I was drawn to natural healing. 

Travelling is a great way to trigger memories and de ja vu experiences which all offer insight into what path to take this time around.

It is helpful to look into your childhood for clues as to who you may have been before. Talents can come to the surface very early, particularly in music and art. Children can remember their last incarnation up until about the age of seven. For others it takes longer.

The activities we are drawn to such as playing with chemistry sets, pulling things apart and putting them back together, cooking, dancing, catching and examining insects, learning other languages – are all pursuits that can help to reveal a previous life occupation.

You may be drawn to a particular career because of talents you already brought with you. Or sometimes you ignore these talents, believing that they’re not something you can earn a decent living from. This belief often starts with well-meaning parents or the education system, but if you do something you were born to do, you’ll never work a day in your life.

How many people do you know of who’ve had successful mid to late life career changes because they finally decide to follow a passion that’s always been inside them? Using your innate gifts is the key to happiness and fulfillment. When you follow your true path the Universe will support your decision by placing synchronistic opportunities right in front of you so that everything falls seamlessly into place. 

Take time out to play. Reconnect with that beautiful inner child who remembers what you’re here for. Your soul knows, but you need to slow down long enough to discover the real you. And if you’re feeling drawn to a particular destination – don’t ignore the calling. It’s probably a vital piece of the puzzle that completes your life purpose.

 

Powerful Places

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Have you ever been to a place that totally humbled and inspired you?

Some years ago I visited the Northern Territory and the Kimberley in Western Australia. Part of our journey was on the Tanami, a long, rough, dusty road through the outback wilderness of northern Australia. The night we camped out there, 450 kms from civilisation, was one of the most powerful experiences of my life.

It was the first time I’d ever experienced nature in full force. Yet it was nothing to do with any kind of natural weather event. It was just being present within an environment where nothing was man-made and we were at the mercy of the elements. The energy of this place was formidable and it was impossible not to feel swallowed up by it.

It was the overwhelming silence and vastness that made me realise that humans are so vulnerable and really just an infinitesimal part of a much greater cosmos. The huge night sky sparkled with millions of pin pricks of starry light that brought the rest of the Universe closer, the Earth seemed to hum with its own heartbeat, the trees towered majestically above us holding space, and the spinifex that engulfed our campsite was a reminder to not wander around blindly without direction.

The haunting, distant howl of a dingo was the only sound that intermittently pierced the silence. I had such a sense of overwhelming peace and comfort. It felt like the energy of the Earth became part of me that night, putting everything into perspective and allowing me to realise that in the greater scheme of things, humans are not really in control.

I know now that the feeling we sometimes have of not belonging or being disconnected from the world is really because we are disconnected from the Earth. If you want to gain a higher understanding of yourself, go and immerse yourself in nature.

Around the globe there are many famous sites well known for offering energetic experiences that allow you to connect with your higher self. Places where the veil between heaven and earth is thinner. I have visited some of these sites, and they are certainly incredible and worth visiting, but I’ve also experienced this in simpler places closer to home, my own powerful places that have become special to me.

There is no doubt that connecting with nature opens the heart and brings clarity to the mind. When you align with this greater force, it’s much easier to understand your true purpose and feel inspired to make a difference. You find yourself looking for ways to fulfil your greatest dreams and desires, because deep inside you know what you’re really here for and if you follow the right path, you can’t really go wrong.

The Earth is definitely something to be respected. I know that Mother Nature is totally in control of her own destiny and moves through the natural re-birthing cycles that have existed since the beginning of time and will continue to do so long after we are gone.

Nature provides a smorgasbord of beautiful opportunities to connect and the best thing we can do is show respect for her power while gratefully utilising her wisdom.

So I’d love to know - have you found your special place?

Exploring Elemental Magic

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Do you feel most comfortable when out in nature, and passionate about protecting it? 

Are you connected to animals, would take in every stray if you could and wouldn’t dream of killing an errant spider or bug that wandered into your home?

Are you highly sensitive but also fun-loving and a little mischievous?

If this sounds like you then there’s a good chance that you are an incarnated elemental.

Elementals are commonly known as mythical creatures such as fairies, elves, gnomes, unicorns and mermaids which are ethereal, therefore largely invisible to most people. However they are responsible for the calm and connected feelings you have when surrounded by nature. Compare this to how you feel in a bustling city street (where elementals do not like to go) and you notice a much lower vibration. Although you can’t see them, they are powerful beings responsible for protecting and maintaining the plant and animal kingdoms.

16th century Swiss alchemist Paracelsus identified the four main archetypes as belonging to each of the four main elements. Gnome was of the Earth, Undine of the Water, Sylph of the Air and Salamander of Fire. These magical creatures live among trees and plants, in lakes and rivers, oceans and mountains. Their forms vary between different folklore and alchemy within these elements, with some being more common than others, but they have appeared to exist since the beginning of time.

Elementals vibrate at a higher level which is why they are invisible to many, and they vary in size depending on the roles they play. Generally they are quite child-like and love to focus on play and fun, often playing tricks on others. Many children are able to seem them because they have such open minds and also share these characteristics. Their belief often disappears as adults tell them they’re not real.

It is only the more evolved of the elementals that can incarnate into human form because they learn to become more serious and realise that as protectors of Mother Earth, they have a bigger job to do educating humans on how to interact with nature and prevent them from destroying it. This makes them very passionate and committed about achieving their purpose. You will find these people at environmental rallies, beach clean-up days, picking up litter, involved in animal rescue.

I’m sure everyone has had a magical experience in nature, whether it’s leaning against the trunk of a beautiful tree, being awestruck by the sight of a powerful waterfall, swimming in a crystal clear stream, watching a thunderstorm roll in over the mountains, enjoying a colourful sunset, witnessing the power of the ocean as waves break on the beach, staring into a campfire. Elemental beings are part of all these experiences and are there to help us. All we need to do is keep an open-mind and see things from a different perspective when we’re in their environment, then we will start to see them everywhere, perhaps even hear them.

Next time you’re out in nature, look carefully and see if you can notice this unseen world. Magic is all around us and whether or not you believe you are an incarnated elemental on a mission or just someone who enjoys the energy of the four elements, take time to relax and absorb what the natural world has to offer. It really is the ultimate wellbeing experience.

Why Visit a Sacred Site

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Research has shown that there is a definite trend away from taking annual vacations to do nothing but lie on a beach and relax while sipping cocktails. While there’s nothing wrong with this, increasingly as people awaken and become more aware of the natural world, there is a stronger desire to enrich the soul by visiting sacred sites. 

There are many energetically powerful places around the world that offer spiritual experiences and religious pilgrimages which help visitors to find more meaning in their lives. For example, many sacred shrines and temples hold healing energies because they are visited by thousands of people who use them for meditation and prayer, and have also been visited and blessed by saints and holy people. It is common to hear of miracles occurring at such sites.

Nature itself provides an abundance of healing energies and vortexes in certain destinations, many of which are well known. Mysteries surround places like Sedona in the USA, Lake Titicaca in Peru, Mt Kailash in Tibet and Uluru in Australia, to name a few. The extraordinary energies that exist in these places can lead to highly significant experiences for an individual who becomes aligned with their energies, with many life-changing results having been reported. They bring heaven and earth closer together and visiting them offers an easier way to connect with the inner self.

However, any place can offer an allure because of a specific personal attraction. This could be because of a known ancestral or past life experience there or just something about it that draws a person’s attention for no obvious reason. We all have unconscious memories, so the places we develop a desire to visit can be quite outside of our awareness, we just know the pull is strong. 

You don’t have to walk the Camino to have a personal pilgrimage (although I can recommend this, having done it myself). It’s just a matter of visiting somewhere that has a personal significance for you, and you can have that life-changing experience by just following your own intuition.

The important thing is that you go to where you are drawn, you connect with the higher consciousness of this physical place, and draw from it the wisdom and energy that it offers. Travelling to a sacred site is a special experience and guaranteed to provide a deeper insight into your spiritual purpose and offer the peace and fulfillment we all crave.

Who Loves Travelling?

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As you live your life you’re writing a story. The people you connect with become characters within this story and the places you visit are the scenes. Travelling opens us up to a wealth of valuable experiences. We get to learn about new cultures, be awestruck by the beauty of different landscapes, do things you may never have tried before and taste new cuisines. There is nothing like the spirit of adventure to inspire and enrich your soul. To me travelling is expansive for the mind, opening you up to understand the way different people live, and the more different that is from your own life, the better. We are a diverse planet of people and places and there is so much to explore. 

I’ve travelled all over the world and it has become my number one value. It fact it seems that most people have a bucket list. I feel so grateful to have had the experiences I’ve had and they’re not over yet! I believe that more and more people are seeking meaningful journeys, pilgrimages and visits to destinations that uplift and offer more than just shopping, eating and sightseeing. 

Over the past few years I have made a point of visiting places that I’ve been connected with in past lives. This can happen spontaneously as it did the first time I landed in London and burst into tears, with an overwhelming feeling of coming home. I was only 19 then. Or it can be more deliberate such as when I visited the parks and canyons of the US seeking my native American roots and visiting Salem where I’d had a life during the witch trials. The emotional reaction to that journey left me in no doubt that I was remembering something very real.

There are many energetically powerful places in the world to visit, even if they are only significant to you, and I urge you to enrich your life by delving deep into new experiences and cultures. It really helps to put things into perspective, not to mention that spending time away from the stresses of your daily life allows you to relax and open you up to new possibilities. Most of my goals and decisions on what to do next in my life have manifested after some kind of travel experience. This doesn’t have to be a complicated overseas trip. Have a look in your own backyard and you will see that possibilities for a magical adventure are right there, particularly in Australia where there are so many hidden gems of beauty and empowerment to be discovered.

How are you going to add to your story? I’d love to know where in the world your soul is calling you to visit.

Do You Nurture Yourself?

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I recently got to really understand the importance of unconditional self-love. 

As life goes on and you’re faced with challenging situations, It’s so easy to accumulate guilt inside you for the way you handle some of these situations. At the end of the day we’re all human, therefore not perfect. We are learning all the time and the way we deal with things comes down to what we believe is the right course of action at the time for all concerned.

It’s only later when we witness the fallout of our not-so-perfect actions that we can develop regrets. But there is no value in holding on to regret. I know in my case, I never set out to intentionally hurt anyone, but sometimes the way I handled some situations was a survival mechanism for me which caused other people pain. 

These types of actions are motivated by the need to honour ourselves, but then you begin to feel selfish for making yourself feel better at the expense of someone else, even if you think it was warranted at the time. This then stops you from feeling as though you can give time to yourself because you’re trying to compensate for your mistakes by giving, giving, giving to everyone else.

I believe that guilt is anger turned inwards on ourselves and it is so destructive. You don’t even realise but it stores itself deep inside and you become unaware that you’re even holding onto it. It causes you to stop enjoying life and with time you can’t even really pinpoint where it all started. You just know that you’ve developed some level of self-hate without really understanding why.

Hanging on to guilt and regret depletes your levels of happiness, which in turn also hurts others, particularly those who are closest to you, those who just want you to be happy.

If you really want to stop hurting others, you need to heal yourself. This is not selfish. It is actually the only way to become the person that other people want to love and spend time with. It is impossible to love someone else fully if you can’t first love yourself. No amount of kindness, care or generosity has value if you can’t offer yourself the same thing.

So start with self-nurture. It may seem like a good idea to put everyone else ahead of your own needs but it doesn’t work. It is not selfish to look after yourself first. You can’t help anyone else if you’re broken.

It could be as simple as giving yourself alone time to do whatever feels good. What would this look like to you? It could be taking a long bath, reading a book that stimulates your brain, listening to soothing music, taking a long walk in nature – anything that energises you and fills you up.

When you feel good inside and start to love and appreciate yourself for the incredible human being that you are, and know that you have so much to offer, only then can you move on to supporting others.

 

Time to Surrender

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Do you think we are all in control of our destiny? 

I have been pondering this question for quite some time and reflecting back on my own life. I’ve always been one for trying to make things happen – things I think are what I most need. Things that I think I want, only when I get them, realise that often I don’t care about them anymore. So then I go in search of the next shiny object to fulfil a sense of renewed purpose.

What I’ve come to understand is that we are always striving to achieve something but its really more about the journey, not the destination. For when we reach the goal, it may feel rewarding for a time but then we just want more. No matter what we have or what we aspire to be, it is never enough.

Perhaps this is just human nature.

However, as I’ve grown older I’ve become complacent. I’m not the person I imagined myself to be 20 years ago. So much has changed and I’ve grown in ways I couldn’t even have conceptualised back then. My circumstances have thrown adversity at me that I would never have expected, but I’ve come through it mostly unscathed. So obviously these lessons were meant for me. I didn’t consciously choose them, but my unconscious mind knew better because it contains a higher understanding that I’d not tapped into.

Although my mind constantly nags me to do more and be more so that I can make a difference in the world to at least some people, I’m tired of doing that. When I look back at everything that’s happened to me I know that I haven’t been in control at all. I’m just in the exact place I’m supposed to be whether or not I put any effort into it. Everything that’s happened is part of a bigger picture plan. Sure, we have free will, but I think it’s limited and only enough to have us believe that we are in control.

So I’ve decided its time to slow down and surrender. I don’t have to save the world if that’s not what I’m here for. I love to help people, it fills my heart and soul with joy to make a difference but I think I’m going to be more selective and not burn myself out trying to be everything to everyone. From now on I’m going to use my heart and body to feel what’s right. Follow my intuition alone. I know there is a guiding force behind everything I do so I’m going to stop fighting and just allow whatever is meant to happen to happen, because it’s going to anyway.

And you know what? It feels so liberating.

Love Yourself First

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As humans it is easy for us to blame others when things go wrong. This is because it’s hard to admit we’ve made an error of judgement and face the consequences of what people might think or say. But remember, nobody is perfect and making mistakes is actually a valuable part of life.

What I have come to realise is even if we do blame others, we are actually angrier with ourselves, we just aren’t ready to own it yet. Blame is just delaying the inevitable realisation that we are not perfect. Although we may like to think we are doing the right thing all the time, the reality is that instead of understanding that it’s OK to make a mistake, our confidence takes a hit and we privately beat ourselves up. To me this shows that our natural state is actually to respect and even love who we are, but over time (and more mistakes and criticism from others), people can sometimes start to doubt themselves, which leads to a lack of self love. 

Most people I meet have issues with self esteem. When I was growing up in my all-girls school environment, those who were most criticised were usually described as someone “who loves herself”. If you think about it, that should not be a bad thing, although in that context it usually meant they were self-centred, only caring about themselves and not about anyone else. But that language started to tell people that it was inappropriate to show the world that you valued yourself as a person.

We are all connected and all part of the human family. When you hurt someone else, it comes back to you as well. So it makes sense that if more people loved themselves, they would be able to spread more love into the world and make others feel good about themselves. Loving and appreciating yourself for who you are is the easiest way to change the world. 

It’s hard to love other people unless you can learn to love yourself first, so if you’re frustrated because you haven’t met your ideal partner or found friends that you resonate with, take a look at the relationship you have with yourself. Your outer world is definitely a reflection of your inner world.

I don’t believe anyone is born “bad”. The way we turn out is a reflection of our environment and beliefs. Those beliefs come from early childhood and it is possible to change them. The simplest comment from a parent or teacher can create an unconscious belief that can potentially destroy a person’s self esteem later in life. We need to stop this cycle of feeling like we don’t deserve to be happy, successful or be who we really want to be.

The only thing you need to do is love yourself for who you are. Look for the good points, recognise the mistakes you’ve made and how you’ve learned from them or done something to turn them around. There is good in everyone, we all have a unique gift to share, so you owe it to yourself to recognise and embrace your magnificence. 

 

Your Authentic Self

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We spend so much time doing and not just being.

I grew up being taught you had to work hard if you want to make it in this world. So I basically found the career path my parents suggested for me. I looked up to and respected them so it didn’t occur to me to question their choices. They always had the best intentions for me, and why wouldn’t they? They were loving parents.

This was the 70’s and choices for females are not what they are today. There were only a few career paths you could take and I actually thought I was really grateful landing a job in the travel industry (taking after my parents).

Don’t get me wrong. That was an amazing time in my life and was what gave me the ability and desire to travel the world when I was young. To be truthful, I only stopped doing travelling to have a family, but now they’ve grown up all I want to do is continue that journey.

I had other jobs as well but nothing that ever really lit the fire inside me. I became conditioned to doing whatever I could to make ends meet, and if it wasn’t perfect, I guess I believed I was doing the best I could with what I knew. It didn’t occur to me back then, like it does now, to think outside the box – take different paths of action.

This was exhausting especially after I became a single mum of three kids. I felt guilty if I wasn’t doing something all the time towards earning a living, cooking, cleaning, ensuring my kids were happy and doing what they loved, satisfying everything and everyone else except for me.

Then I woke up.

I decided it was time to nurture myself a little, hence I started to take on activities that fed my soul, got myself into networks of like-minded people who encouraged me to play a bigger game in life and more importantly to find that thing that feeds my soul.

I’m so grateful for everybody who has come and gone in my life, the ones who are still with me and for every experience, good and bad, that I’ve ever had.

I am living my truth now and I’ve let go of expectations of how situations have to go, and just allowing and trusting that I’ll be looked after if I am just my authentic self, living the way I intended when I was born into this world.

There really is no other way to be, so if you’re finding yourself doing too much, thinking too much, worrying too much, just slow down and simply be in your heart and watch the magic that is the inner you unfold.

 

We Are All Powerful Creators

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Did you know that up to the age of 12 you are the product of whatever you’ve heard and learned from your parents, teachers, family, friends, anyone who has any kind of influence over you? And in your experience, do you think most people are empowered by that age to go out and be the best version of themselves they can possibly be?

Unfortunately, in today’s society most of us are bred to be mediocre. Parents and grandparents have often been through hard times and they project that fear onto their children. This is where you see parents telling their kids that money doesn’t grow on trees, they’re no good at something, you can’t make a decent living doing that, sit down and stop making a spectacle of yourself.  They stifle their child’s natural personality if it seems too different from the norm. Perhaps they don’t really mean to do this, or even know how young a child can be influenced by the slightest negative comment from an adult.

After the age of 12 is when we start to think for ourselves. Often teenagers with radical thoughts and ideas are labelled as being non-conforming when really they could just be starting to exercise their own brain muscle for the first time. Too many teenagers are shut down for their thinking because it clashes with the programming they’ve been exposed to since birth and sadly, 90% of the time, the negative side wins.

Why is it that we are so afraid of not fitting in to what we’re told is “normal”? And what gives anyone the right to decide what is normal and what isn’t?

I have met many many people throughout my life who are so gifted in areas that others believe are weird, useless, dangerous or even evil. This usually applies to people with spiritual gifts, scientists, thought leaders and creative business people. Unfortunately, fear seems to hold many people back from being open to doing things differently from what the education system teaches. So they go through life being stifled and hiding rather than embracing what they’re here to do and prove everyone wrong.

The majority of the most influential people of our time have been ridiculed and labelled as crazy because of their beliefs. Imagine if they actually listened to their naysayers. Without these incredibly gifted people ignoring their critics we wouldn’t have electricity, telephones, aircraft, space travel, computers, in fact most of the technology that’s around today and more.

The moral of this story is please do not stifle the abilities of children or indeed anyone who is prepared to step out of the programming and be a true expression of themselves. Without them there would be no progress.

Every single person on this planet is unique and has a special talent to share. This is never going to happen as long as they are shut down and ridiculed. It is up to everyone as a collective to help each other do what they are here to do before they die.

Time is an Illusion

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Have you ever noticed yourself saying “I don’t have time”?

I know I used to do that constantly. It seemed like there were never enough hours in the day to go to work, spend time with family, do stuff for myself and still have energy left over. I felt like a mouse on one of those spinning wheel things.

Then it all changed.

I began to realise that time is an illusion and if want to we can bend it. I’m sure you’ve experienced an exciting day in your life when 8 or 9 hours slipped past and it felt like only one hour. Or perhaps when you were looking forward to something, the days and hours seemed to drag on forever before the event was there. Time is all relative, hence Einstein’s theory of relativity.

Einstein believed that everything happens simultaneously and if you were to have a rocket ship that could travel at the speed of light you would experience past, present and future all at once, as opposed to someone who’s just standing on the ground.

But obviously we don’t have a rocket ship – however we do have our consciousness.

It is possible to time travel to the past, present and future by expanding your consciousness. You can then see quite clearly every experience you’ve had and will have and can relate these experiences to what’s happening now.

I know people say, “what’s the point of seeing past lives, they’re in the past, all that matters is the present”.

I agree with that, because all we have is the now, but past and future are all part of it. So it’s really pointless to dwell on the past and obsess about the future because we’ve already created them and are living them simultaneously.

However, most people don’t have the ability to consciously see everything happening at once, so this is where travelling within our minds to the past or future can explain and clear things that are blocking the now from happening the way we want them to.

As far as not having enough time in a day, if you have lots of things you have to get done, just ask for more time. Just ask, set intentions and the universe will provide. You’ll be amazed how much you can achieve and when you look at your watch you’ll think that time must have stood still for a while.

Like I said – time is an illusion.

 

Why Gratitude?

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Approaching the end of another year always makes me reflect on what I’ve achieved over the past 11 months. The older I get the faster the years seem to go by and the less I seem to care about the tangible things I achieved. Sure, I worked hard and had some financial rewards. But is that really what I was proud of?

These days what I’m most proud of are the blessings I find myself writing in my gratitude journal each day. The little things that make such a difference to me even if it’s just a smile or a kind word from a stranger. Or my clients who open up to me and allow my help. Or the special friends who listen while I pour my heart out to them when things aren’t going well. Or to family for just being there and loving me unconditionally.

There are physical things too. Like the birds who wake me up every day with their song, the plants and trees that ground me when I go walking in the morning, the sun on my back, the wind in my hair, the beautiful beaches here in Queensland, the cozy and comfortable home I live in.

I could go on forever about all the things I’m grateful for, but I won’t. All I really want to say is that having gratitude is what keeps my heart open and attracts more of the things that are important to me. I know that many people talk about it and we all know how powerful it is, but how many actually practise gratitude everyday?

It can be one of those things you know you should do, but like so many other things, gets forgotten in the busyness of a day. Sometimes we just need to slow down and not do so much. If you don’t allow time for self reflection, it’s easy to miss the miracles that are all around you.

So as we enter into another festive season, I just want to ask you to look inside your heart and recognise what’s really important – the things that you may sometimes take for granted. Then count your blessings and hug your family and friends just a little bit tighter.

The world around you is full of magical moments if you just stop to notice them.

Have a wonderful Christmas and I hope 2018 brings you everything your heart desires.

Embrace the Real You

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You are perfect just the way you are!

I am noticing more and more that people are so hung up on appearances. It’s as if they need to have the perfect body shape, expensive hairstyle, latest fashion items to feel validated. There’s nothing wrong with being confident and having a healthy respect for your presence in the world, but this should never be a mask for how you really feel about yourself. You should not hide behind these idealised images of perfection so that the world doesn’t get to see the real you, flaws and all, because the truth is that none of us are perfect. It’s OK to be vulnerable and exposed.

I believe that every person is special and has a beautiful gift to share with humanity. We came into this life for a purpose and our journey is all about finding out what that is and achieving it, whether we realise it or not. For some people it’s really obvious, but for others it’s more of a struggle because they fight it. We are subjected to so much conditioning by parents, teachers, governments, corporations, media and even well meaning friends, that beliefs form in the unconscious mind which sabotage our self confidence and we don’t even realise how they affect our choices.

What happens is that many people go through life constantly trying to fit in with what they are taught is “normal”, rather than listening to their nagging inner voice that’s trying to lead them in a different direction from what they’re comfortable with. Even though on some level they know what they should be doing, it all seems too hard to break out of the mould and become someone different. This is what causes those feelings of being lost and unfulfilled – that knowingness that you are capable of so much more. And this is not going to be solved by buying expensive clothing and spending hours in the gym sculpting yourself into a perceived version of what you think the world wants you to be. You can't hide

What the world really wants are people who are authentic. I am committed to helping others find that special gift inside of them and have the courage to break of their comfort zones and embrace that purpose. This is the only real path to total fulfilment. So love yourself honestly and completely for who you are, no matter what shape or size, because we all need you. Your body is just the temporary vessel that is carrying around the most empowered and all knowing part of you -  your soul.

 

Why The Lessons?

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Do you ever wish for a lesson-free month? Just one month where everything goes smoothly. You’re not putting out fires at work, struggling with health or finances, having relationship conflicts. I know I do, even though I know better. I get it – struggle isn’t easy.

When we are born we choose the type of life we want and the lessons we want to learn. People say to me “why would I choose this for myself?” The answer I give is that a life on earth offers the greatest opportunities for growth. So the more advanced we become, we choose lives that are going to challenge us and help us progress faster through our spiritual journey.

I realised the other day that although plenty of really positive things have happened for me this year, there have also been some really negative challenges as well. This is the balance of life. We have to experience both sides. The best way to get through those challenging times is to look for the lesson and learn from it. I know it’s hard when things aren’t going to plan to remain positive and focused, but you just need to remember that everything that happens to us is part of a plan. We just can’t see the whole picture yet.

You know how you look at your life sometimes and think about how you overcame some stressful situation which was devastating at the time, but now seems almost like a blessing because it created a different mindset or led you down an unexpected and more fulfilling path. There are no accidents. Embrace the bad times and be grateful for the good times. That’s all you can do.

Don’t put up a fight. Accept the challenges and overcome them. You know they won’t be so bad once they’re over, so use the opportunity to have an experience that will teach you something valuable or make you a better person. If you learn the lesson they are there to teach, then you won’t have to continue going through these problems. If you ignore the learnings, unfortunately you will get more of the same until you change something.

Remember, all the answers are within, so if you really want to understand why something is happening to you, go inside, access your higher self and have a deep and meaningful conversation. You’ll be surprised at what you could find out. And you’ll realise that you should never give up because you’re not given something to overcome that you’re not ready for.

Children and Past Lives

Did you know that up until around the age of seven a child can still remember their last incarnation? The subconscious mind does not kick in until roughly that age so a child that young cannot be hypnotised because they can remember everything anyway.

You may have noticed young children often have an understanding of things they have never been exposed to. I once knew a three year old child who described to her mother one day how when she died they opened up her body, took out all the organs and replaced them with seeds. Then they wrapped her in bandages and buried her in a big room. Her stunned mother, albeit fascinated by the account, was a little worried about how she knew about such things when she had never seen a book or a TV show about ancient Egypt. A little research revealed that this method of embalming using seeds only took place for a short time in Egyptian history and only for royalty. The strange thing was when this child was born, her mother always felt that she had to give her a regal sounding name, so called her Natasha.

There are hundreds of stories like this one. The point of this story is that if you have a child who starts to talk about their previous experiences, it is nothing to be afraid of. Some children can bring the emotion and distress of a sudden death from a previous life to this one, so the best way to deal with it is to listen and help them by explaining that it is from the past and can’t hurt them anymore. Perhaps they haven’t yet realised they are in a different body now, so just listen and be understanding. Introduce them fully to their new life and make them feel loved and supported.

Unfortunately, a young child telling stories like this is seen as just their imagination and adults don’t tend to take them seriously. I believe that imagination is based on real experiences that we are not aware of. Many children also have imaginary friends who they talk to. These could be anyone from a passed loved one, a guide or someone from a past life they are still communicating with. This is also not cause for concern and should preferably not be discouraged as it so often is. My own daughter had an imaginary friend who was very real to her. We used to make him morning tea and strap him into his seat belt in the car when we went out. He seemed a great comfort to her so I never told her that he wasn’t real. To this day, although she doesn’t remember the details about him or who he was, she does remember that feeling of security she always had around her and thanks me for believing in him.

By the time children go off to school and their subconscious minds become activated, all of these memories and experiences will disappear. They will have current life experiences to learn and remember so these past experiences are not in the forefront any more. It is so important to the wellbeing of a child to support them in their beliefs and offer encouragement and understanding. This will prevent any unhelpful subconscious blocks developing in them that they are somehow not normal, which could affect them later in life.

Your Money Mindset

What is your relationship with money? Does it make you feel safe when you have it, does it bring you happiness, does it make you feel powerful, do you like to hoard it for a rainy day? Does a lack of it send you into bouts of depression and struggle?

One thing is certain, no matter how you feel about it, we all need it to survive.  There is so much focus on it that many see it as being evil and disruptive. That it somehow changes personalities and brings out the bad side in the people who have a lot of it. At the end of the day money itself is just energy. How we feel about it and use it is what gives it the reputation.

We are all taught to get an education, work hard and save for the things we want. Some end up becoming affluent while others don’t. Have you ever stopped to consider that those who struggle with earning enough money are not necessarily any less intelligent or capable than those who seem to do it easily? Perhaps they are not quite as driven to be a high achiever, but I believe everyone is capable of attracting the abundance they deserve. So why is it there are so many people who sabotage their ability to find financially security?

The answer is in the subconscious. We don’t realise it consciously but we can create money blocks that tell us “money is the root of all evil”, probably instilled at an early age by our parents, teachers, or other key people in our lives. It is not intentional but can you ever remember being told “money doesn’t grow on trees” if you asked for something, or “that costs too much, you don’t need it”? 

Where they were probably just trying to teach us not to be wasteful, in fact we received a different message, that on some level we were undeserving. We may even have overheard our parents worrying about how to pay for something or comparing costs when buying something. All of these types of events become ingrained in our thinking to the point that we may believe we can’t have what we want. That somehow it’s greedy and wrong to have a lot of money.

Also consider that these blocks could have come from even further back, from a previous life. Many of my clients find they have lived in poverty in past lives, and while that may have been a lesson for them at the time, they never let go of that mindset. It also used to be common for people to set poverty vows which can then be carried into subsequent lifetimes unless something breaks them.

The good news is that you can fix all of this. Past life regression can help to recognise where this poverty mindset comes from. Before this process it is helpful to write down all the negative comments you remember about money from your childhood, and events where there was some kind of money issue, particularly those that still cause you to have an emotional response or bad feeling somewhere in your body. We can then work on clearing away these blocks from the subconscious through varying techniques so they do not continue to sabotage your prosperity.

What is your money mindset?

Are You Being True to Yourself?

On our soul’s journey we are constantly changing. We make mistakes, face blocks, have relationship problems, experience negative emotions and every time something like this happens, we find solutions and come out the other side a little wiser and stronger.

That’s the nature of being human. We came here to learn and grow so this is what’s supposed to happen. However, are you guilty of doing the hard work, going through a significant growth journey but continue to identify yourself as who you used to be?

Unfortunately, our family and friends can sometimes not see how we’ve evolved and will still see us as the old version carrying out the old behaviours. What happens then is that we either fight them because we feel unsupported or become disillusioned because we feel that perhaps our growth was not as real as we thought it was. Either way this is not an ideal situation.

Spiritual growth can be a lonely journey at times but you must stay true to yourself and your beliefs. Those closest to you can feel threatened by your constant evolution because it raises emotions and issues of their own which suddenly make them feel inadequate. They don’t want to feel that you won’t need them anymore. Some relationships involve a stronger person always leading a weaker person, however if you are the weaker person and find yourself progressing so much that you are transcending them in knowledge and wisdom to become the stronger person, of course they won’t appreciate it. This is something that often breaks up marriages and friendships.

As difficult as it is, you need to stand your ground. You don’t have to feel guilty about improving yourself. All of this conflict that goes on is not your fault. It is purely the ‘stuff’ of the other party and something they need to deal with on their own personal journey. So explain to them that you are no longer that old version of yourself and even though you still love them they need to respect where you are going. Please don’t ever go along with their manipulation of trying to keep you the way you were. You deserve to be great and to develop and grow.

This is difficult if it’s your own family but they will eventually accept it. If it’s your friends who are guilty of this, if they are unable to accept the new you, then let them go. It could be lonely for a while but you will soon attract a different tribe of people who resonate with your new energy. You don’t need to be held back by the wrong friends and they will probably disappear from your life naturally to make room for others who are going to support your future growth. This is how it works and in the long run you will be happier and better equipped to continue your journey with the right people around you. So don’t give up and definitely always be true to yourself because at the end of the day, you’re the one you have to live with and be accountable to.

 

The Earth Needs Our Help

Since I have been involved with past life regression, I have a greater understanding and appreciation of the consequences that arise from our actions. Whatever we do in this lifetime is going to affect future generations and eventually ourselves when we decide to reincarnate. Everything we do comes back to us eventually. In relation to the Earth it is therefore imperative that we look after it so that we have something to come back to. But what I see all around me is global climate change, the decimation of our rainforests, consumerism and “progress” slowly destroying what we have.

There is a saying “We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors; we borrow it from our children”. I was recently reminded of this quote and how powerful it is. The future generations will suffer unless we all do our bit to preserve this beautiful planet on which we live. Did you know that raising animals for us to eat uses more than 70% of the earth’s fresh water? It takes up to 200 times more water and 8 times more fossil fuel energy to produce beef than it does to grow plant foods. Most of the grain grown in the US is used to feed to livestock to benefit the meat and dairy industries, while millions of people around the world suffer from hunger and malnutrition.

A couple of years ago I opened my eyes to these statistics and decided to become vegan. This is not an easy decision and does require lifestyle changes and education on how to eat in this way. Once I broke through the mental conditioning I had grown up with that you can’t survive without the iron and other nutrients that meat and dairy foods provide, it was much easier. I learned that these nutrients are readily available in a plant-based diet and there are many unhealthy people walking around living on junk food, whose nutritional intake is never questioned.

The upside of my decision is I am sparing animals from slaughter, and trust me there is no humane way to do this. I am also benefiting my own health as I now have much less chance of contracting a life-threatening illness and have never felt better. In fact, I have been able to completely do away with the medications I was taking for digestive problems I had been suffering for more than 10 years.

I am just asking you to consider at least cutting down on meat and dairy consumption. Don’t think that any small change that you make will not make a difference because it does. If you were to cut out meat for one month you would save nearly 125,000 litres of the world’s water supply, 84 square metres of forest and the lives of 30 animals.**

These days it is much easier to be vegetarian and vegan as restaurants and supermarkets are recognising the demand for these options. People are waking up and taking care of their health more than ever before and that is exciting for me. I was encouraged to make this change two years ago and reluctant to do it at first. It all seemed too hard because like everyone else, I liked to remain in my comfort zone with what was familiar. But I urge you to try it, even if just for 30 days, and see what a difference it will make to the way you feel. Initially there may be some discomfort as you detox but it doesn’t take long to feel better than you could have imagined and proud of what you’re doing to preserve our beautiful Mother Earth.

Past life regression is all about growth and understanding our life purpose, then doing what we can to fulfil this purpose during the present incarnation. But our soul doesn’t stop here. In order to complete our soul’s journey we need to continue coming back, so let’s all make sure we have something sustainable to come back to.

** Reference: www.cowspiracy.com calculator

Trust Yourself

We are all on a life path that was determined before we were born. We are not always aware of where that path will lead or if we’re even heading in the right direction. But one thing’s for sure. If you’re on the right one, things will fall into place easily. If you’re on the wrong one, then many things will happen to convince you that you’re not making the right decisions.  If you are experiencing harmful or catastrophic events in your life with regard to business or relationships, then let them go. This is the universe trying to tell you that you need to change direction.

This is different from the normal pitfalls which come with daily life. The things that are annoying and can sometimes make you feel like giving up. The difference is that you still have the underlying passion and knowingness that you’re doing the right thing, whether it be a job, a business, a partner or a friend. These types of experiences are really just lessons, ways to encourage you to learn more about your own capabilities, to grow and improve.

An important thing to remember is that you are your own person. Do not let other people take away your power. You are the only one who knows what’s good for you and what you should be doing. Sometimes we meet people who try to give well meaning advice. This could be because they are seeking to find a sense of importance or worth in themselves. It could be because they are not prepared to understand that vulnerability is not necessarily a bad thing. If you have someone in your life who is trying to change you from who you are into someone that better suits their needs, this is a red flag situation. You need to take control, even if you’re feeling so disillusioned with your life that their help seems welcome. If you feel in your gut that their intentions are just self-serving then have the strength and courage to politely decline whatever it is they are offering. I guarantee you that if you listen to your inner voice, you will succeed. Believe in yourself, live your life with conviction and others will be knocking down your door to be around you, learning what they can from your wisdom.

We only get one chance at this lifetime and we’ve chosen what it is we have to do, so don’t get stuck. Follow your heart, embrace and learn from your mistakes, recognise and honour the people who are genuinely there to help you on your journey. Be discerning about who you allow to share in your dreams. You have chosen these people as well long before you were born. Make sure that when you leave this life, you have achieved what you know in your heart was your reason for living, so that next life you can move up to a new phase in your spiritual development.

 

Love Is Timeless

Although I consider Valentine’s Day to be rather a commercial occasion, I do like the way it reminds people to focus on love. It seems there is too much exposure given to the ugly things going on in the world, and not enough time devoted to the heart-warming stories out there. I do enjoy seeing all the romantic gestures that take place all around me on February 14th. Have you noticed that when people show this more sensitive side of themselves to others, that it appears to be contagious?

There is no reason why every day shouldn’t feel like Valentine’s Day. Love is something so special but too often taken for granted. If you don’t have someone special in your life to love romantically, it feels like everybody else around you does and you yearn to complete yourself by finding your other half. When you do have someone, too often you’re not appreciating how important they are to you. The everyday stresses of life can get in the way and often people find it hard to just be with their significant other appreciating what they have. Issues with work, children, family, money, illness start to interfere and leave you wondering why your relationship isn’t what it used to be. The priorities become messed up.

Love is a timeless thing and just like a garden, requires cultivation. Often your life partner has taken the journey with you through many lifetimes, always supporting and always loving you. There would have been many times when you have lost them, grieved for that loss but deep down buried in your subconscious you knew that one day in another place and another time, you would be reunited. When they show up you recognise them and continue your journey. However, even the closest of soul mates need to be mindful of keeping their love alive. It is all part of the soul’s journey and personal growth that comes from learning the lessons from times that are not so easy.

If you are lucky enough to have found your true romantic soul mate then don’t allow any outside forces to destroy that. Love really does conquer all. It is the most important thing there is, and the number one thing that I’ve found most people want in life. In fact, to me the measure of success in life is how much you have loved. It is not about your status in the community or how much money you’ve accumulated. It is as simple as how much you have loved.

So Valentine’s Day is over for another year, but we don’t really need an excuse to spread love. And not just love to a romantic partner. Everyone needs love. Children, other family members, work colleagues, friends, pets, in fact every living being, so let’s make it our mission to open our hearts and give what we can to others, especially those who are struggling. It could be a smile, a thoughtful gesture or something much more significant. It really does make a difference. And don’t forget about yourself. If you love yourself unconditionally, you give everyone else permission to love themselves too. If you want to change the world, change yourself.