As the Christmas season approaches, everyone is winding down for the year and I know for me, this is the time when I stop to reflect on my own life and the direction I am headed. I look back at the past year (which these days seems to go way too quickly) and think about what I have learned, how I have grown and what still needs to be achieved.
This used to be a bit of a confronting exercise for me because it always seemed that I hadn’t done enough. Time had slipped away before I had managed to help enough people or make the difference I’m trying to make in the world. So I would plan for the following year with bigger and better goals to compensate for my perceived lack of results. I told myself I had to be busier and fit more into my already over-committed schedule to achieve the success I was looking for.
I am older and wiser now. I realise that being busy is not the answer. In fact, the answer is in order to achieve more, you need to slow down. It is impossible to make a difference when you are burned out. I was never giving myself enough time to just sit and contemplate. Without going inside my own heart and seeing what was there, I was missing the vital link to my success. I was not honouring myself as a human being and understanding my true needs. It is so important to look after yourself before you can look after others.
I discovered that the more I slowed down and really looked into my heart for what I should be doing next, the insight I was given was so much more relevant and helpful. We are constantly surrounded by situations and people who are all there to distract us from our real purpose. They sometimes allow us to doubt our own abilities and it’s so easy to become caught up in that uncertainty that we start to believe we are not capable. This is all just unnecessary noise, which overwhelms the silence within – the place where we discover the truth when we stop for long enough to listen.
Everybody knows in their own hearts what is truly best for them. So if you are like me, and use this holiday season to take a break, please don’t forget to take some time out for you – the real you. We are all doing the best with what we have. Everything happens in accordance with divine timing and if we haven’t achieved everything on the list by the end of the year, then we are probably trying to do too much too soon, before we are ready.
These days I look back on my year and am grateful for the little things that have happened because now I see the big picture. I know I will only be able to do as much as I can handle. So if you’re feeling inadequate, please don’t beat yourself up. Instead give yourself a reassuring pat on the back that you are perfect just the way you are and whether you realise it or not, you are fulfilling your life purpose they way you chose before you were born.