Own Your Weirdness

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Are you experiencing feelings of doubt about who you really are? You’ve reached a point in your life when you thought you should have it all figured out, but you’re feeling unfulfilled because you know there must be more. But you don’t know what it is. Or maybe you do but you’re afraid of it.

 In other words you are waking up!

 This can have you feeling like you’re going crazy because suddenly your family and friends don’t understand you. Conversations with them result in frustration because you want to have deep and meaningful interactions, but everything is surface level. They’re talking about sports, the weather, the latest movie they watched, gossiping about other people while you sit there wondering how you ever found them interesting.

 This usually follows a period of inner exploration on what your true purpose really is in this lifetime. You may have discovered aspects of yourself that you didn’t realise existed, you may be finally acknowledging talents and gifts that you’d suppressed thinking they wouldn’t be accepted. You have a new path to follow but struggle to feel like you fit in anywhere.

 The trouble is that you’re afraid. Stepping outside the mainstream is scary because you don’t know what’s on the other side. A thousand doubts flood your mind, anything from “will I be able to support myself if I take on a new venture?” to “what if I lose all my friends?” to “is this real or just my ego tricking me into believing I’m capable of doing something great?”

 There could be past life or childhood traumas playing out in the subconscious that are preventing you from being who you want to be, but you’re not aware of them.

 You develop an internal battle between wanting to be mainstream and conforming to what you’ve always been comfortable with before, and wanting to be unique by taking a risk and breaking free of the shackles that are holding you back from having your dream life.

 It seems like everywhere you go, everyone else is normal except for you, but are they really? Look a little deeper and see if they are honestly happy? Sure they may appear to have success and stability in the eyes of society’s expectations, but are they just following the rules because they don’t know any other way? Do you think if they thought they had a choice, they would do things differently? 

 There are basically two kinds of people. The ones who follow the rules and the rebels.

 You may think it’s the rebels who break free from the system and create change. While that’s often true, I think change can just as easily be created by people who’ve always followed the rules. Let’s examine this.

 In my experience I was always one for following the rules and constantly sought approval to make sure I wasn’t doing the wrong thing. I realise now that I did this intuitively knowing that there was something inside me greater and more powerful than I could handle, and wasn’t ready to unleash it on the world, or even believe it was possible. So I always did what was expected of me because I feared the alternative. However, I soon learned you can’t do this forever because that inner calling is the reason you’re here. So you set about creating change in a loving way, using a softer approach that people would be more likely to accept.

 Then there are the rule breakers. I used to judge them, probably because deep down I wanted to be like them but didn’t have the courage. Rule breakers are the creative ones, the people who question everything and don’t accept what they don’t believe in. They come up with the big ideas and commit to implementing them at all costs because they believe so much in what they’re doing. They tell it how it is, offer tough love and they know that in order to create change, you have to bypass the systems.

 So you see, everyone is capable of being who they are and making a difference.

 The most empowering thing anyone ever said to me when I was going through my self-awareness crisis was “you’re not broken”. For a long time people thought I was weird because I was fascinated with exploring past lives, visiting psychic mediums, I believed in karma and manifestation, in fact loved everything alternative. These concepts are more accepted now because more people are being exposed to them and are finding answers to their big questions. This is because people like me have owned their weirdness and come out of the spiritual closet to teach others what they know. 

 It was during a pivotal time of my inner journey that I found myself at a seminar surrounded by other people like me, and knew this was my tribe. We were asked to consider that perhaps we were the gifted ones who were sane while everyone else living within their programming was insane. This was a huge moment for me. For the first time in my life I didn’t feel so alone and it was certainly the point when I realised that I deserved to be seen and heard. 

 I learned you don’t have to be a ground-breaking entrepreneur to make a difference in the world. We’re all here to play our part, no matter how small, using our gifts to contribute to the collective. You don’t always know where you fit in, but it doesn’t matter, just follow your path and it will be perfect. 

 The universe has your back. If it doesn’t seem to then perhaps you’ve gone off track. All you need to do is follow your intuition and stop listening to that annoying ego voice in your head. Seek out your tribe because they’re waiting to embrace you for who you are. You will speak to them soul to soul because you’re energetically connected and you will experience a far more meaningful connection than with the friends you’ve lost interest in. Don’t feel guilty about that either. It’s just growth. We all change so it’s only natural that some people fall away. Just let them go with love to discover their own path.

 Transcend the ego, draw on past life wisdom and future life direction in order to make an impact in the present. It’s all there inside you. Owning who you are and letting others see it is empowering for you and for them. Be the change you want to see in the world and you’ll encourage others to do the same.

Embrace the Real You

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You are perfect just the way you are!

I am noticing more and more that people are so hung up on appearances. It’s as if they need to have the perfect body shape, expensive hairstyle, latest fashion items to feel validated. There’s nothing wrong with being confident and having a healthy respect for your presence in the world, but this should never be a mask for how you really feel about yourself. You should not hide behind these idealised images of perfection so that the world doesn’t get to see the real you, flaws and all, because the truth is that none of us are perfect. It’s OK to be vulnerable and exposed.

I believe that every person is special and has a beautiful gift to share with humanity. We came into this life for a purpose and our journey is all about finding out what that is and achieving it, whether we realise it or not. For some people it’s really obvious, but for others it’s more of a struggle because they fight it. We are subjected to so much conditioning by parents, teachers, governments, corporations, media and even well meaning friends, that beliefs form in the unconscious mind which sabotage our self confidence and we don’t even realise how they affect our choices.

What happens is that many people go through life constantly trying to fit in with what they are taught is “normal”, rather than listening to their nagging inner voice that’s trying to lead them in a different direction from what they’re comfortable with. Even though on some level they know what they should be doing, it all seems too hard to break out of the mould and become someone different. This is what causes those feelings of being lost and unfulfilled – that knowingness that you are capable of so much more. And this is not going to be solved by buying expensive clothing and spending hours in the gym sculpting yourself into a perceived version of what you think the world wants you to be. You can't hide

What the world really wants are people who are authentic. I am committed to helping others find that special gift inside of them and have the courage to break of their comfort zones and embrace that purpose. This is the only real path to total fulfilment. So love yourself honestly and completely for who you are, no matter what shape or size, because we all need you. Your body is just the temporary vessel that is carrying around the most empowered and all knowing part of you -  your soul.

 

Trust Yourself

We are all on a life path that was determined before we were born. We are not always aware of where that path will lead or if we’re even heading in the right direction. But one thing’s for sure. If you’re on the right one, things will fall into place easily. If you’re on the wrong one, then many things will happen to convince you that you’re not making the right decisions.  If you are experiencing harmful or catastrophic events in your life with regard to business or relationships, then let them go. This is the universe trying to tell you that you need to change direction.

This is different from the normal pitfalls which come with daily life. The things that are annoying and can sometimes make you feel like giving up. The difference is that you still have the underlying passion and knowingness that you’re doing the right thing, whether it be a job, a business, a partner or a friend. These types of experiences are really just lessons, ways to encourage you to learn more about your own capabilities, to grow and improve.

An important thing to remember is that you are your own person. Do not let other people take away your power. You are the only one who knows what’s good for you and what you should be doing. Sometimes we meet people who try to give well meaning advice. This could be because they are seeking to find a sense of importance or worth in themselves. It could be because they are not prepared to understand that vulnerability is not necessarily a bad thing. If you have someone in your life who is trying to change you from who you are into someone that better suits their needs, this is a red flag situation. You need to take control, even if you’re feeling so disillusioned with your life that their help seems welcome. If you feel in your gut that their intentions are just self-serving then have the strength and courage to politely decline whatever it is they are offering. I guarantee you that if you listen to your inner voice, you will succeed. Believe in yourself, live your life with conviction and others will be knocking down your door to be around you, learning what they can from your wisdom.

We only get one chance at this lifetime and we’ve chosen what it is we have to do, so don’t get stuck. Follow your heart, embrace and learn from your mistakes, recognise and honour the people who are genuinely there to help you on your journey. Be discerning about who you allow to share in your dreams. You have chosen these people as well long before you were born. Make sure that when you leave this life, you have achieved what you know in your heart was your reason for living, so that next life you can move up to a new phase in your spiritual development.

 

What Do You Want?

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In my experience, I have found that many people don’t know what they really want. Sometimes all they know is they are dissatisfied with their lives, even though there may be no good reason, but don’t know what they could do to improve it. Others think they know what they want based on preconceived ideas that have been programmed long ago, but in reality, would not suit them at all if they were to manifest.

So why is it so difficult to understand ourselves? I think the answer lies with the fact that most people look for the answers in all the wrong places. We are brought up to believe that “success” and therefore happiness means having a solid career with a high income, being able to buy a fancy car or two, getting married to a loving partner, having a couple of well educated kids with everyone living together in harmony in a large house that we own outright in less than 30 years. This is certainly what our parents and educators encourage. But is this really everyone’s dream life?

How many people do you know actually have all of this – and if they do are they blissfully happy? It is human nature to set the bar higher when we reach a goal, so we are never truly satisfied. The happiest people I have met are those who have followed their heart’s desires and this is the key. Some of them have next to nothing. Success and happiness cannot be found outside of yourself. Only your heart knows what is truly the right thing for you, and this may not be something that society deems as “normal”. Whether it is a career choice, partner, living situation or anything else, the answers are within. The trouble is that the old conditioning kicks in and stops us from doing what we should really be doing, hence we become dissatisfied with life. If we struggle to achieve what is expected of us, our self esteem suffers and makes it impossible to believe in ourselves. If you really sit and think about it, your happiest times are probably when you are doing the simplest things – making someone laugh, playing with your children, stroking an animal, dancing, walking in nature.

So as we move further into a new year, let this be an opportunity to re-assess what truly makes your heart sing. I notice that everyone is positive at the beginning of a new year and by the end they are all saying “good riddance” to it and hoping for the next one to be better. This is a pattern that will continue til the day you die unless you do something about it.

Numerologically you may have heard that we have just finished a cycle and have entered a new cycle – a 1 year. This is a year of new beginnings. So if you are wondering where your life has gone wrong, or there is a burning passion inside you that you have been ignoring, now is the time to look inside your heart and go confidently in the direction of your dreams. You may have to take risks, lose income, alienate friends and family, but please remember you are your number one priority and when you follow your heart’s true calling, the universe will support you in your decision. Ultimately, everything will work out better than you could have imagined. You will realise that the things you thought you needed are less important as your life takes on new meaning.

We don’t always understand why we are the way we are. Past experiences from this life and lives past dictate our beliefs, so the answers can only come from asking the unconscious mind and more importantly listening to the heart. Even a few minutes of meditation every day will give you some clarity. Even if you’re not quite ready to change, start taking small steps now and remember, you don’t have to wait until the 1st January next year to start living.

Are You Finding Life A Challenge?

Do you have a person or a situation in your life that constantly challenges you? No matter how hard you try to deal with it, just when you think it’s all under control and you have a positive outlook, something else happens to bring you right back down again? This is the ebb and flow of life. These people and situations are there to teach lessons, but sometimes don’t you just wish you could have a lesson-free month? I know I do.

The reality is that life can’t be positive all the time. If every day was perfect we would lose sight of what that represents. The only reason we appreciate good days is because we compare them to the bad days, which makes them so much sweeter. The key is to be grateful for every experience, good or bad, because they are all happening for a reason. They are all designed to help us learn and grow.

As part of the growth process we need to be mindful of the fact that we could be unconsciously sabotaging our happiness because a past life experience is at the root of our problem. Past life regression really does give valuable insight into why we are the way we are. Some people are a little afraid of what they might find when they start delving into the past. However, the unconscious mind is protective and will only show you what you need to learn at a particular time. Otherwise, you would just remember every past life and recognise every person you have ever met – the loved ones and the ones who have wronged you. We don’t need to know all of that information. We only need to discover the parts that affect our future growth.  Perhaps these are the parts that we have become stuck with because we never moved on.

We don’t remember every single thing we’ve experienced even in this lifetime. We only retain the parts that are significant to our learning. We know that we have had many experiences as we’ve grown and have learned from them, without having to remember every event. It’s the same with past lives. So don’t be afraid to allow your mind to open up to the information that is required to help you grow because it’s valuable and potentially vital to your future success.

For example, it is easier to deal with relationships issues when you understand that these are ongoing over many lifetimes. Perhaps that over-protective parent may not seem quite so annoying once you know that in a past life they had witnessed your death and not been able to prevent it. Or it explains why you can have an intense, almost irrational attraction to someone you barely know. You could find out why you dislike whole races or cultures of people or why when you travel, you know exactly where to go in places you have never visited before. The possibilities and benefits are endless.

We are all part of a giant universal school with every lifetime being a different grade. We work our way up from kindergarten and eventually reach university where we graduate from the school of life – some people call this “enlightenment”.  

If you are fearful of what you might find, remember you don’t have to experience pain or trauma again. You’ve done that already. You only need to recognise the events and the lessons which can very effectively allow physical, emotional and psychological healing. This allows you to move on and achieve your highest goals and live your happiest life. Most people are curious and fascinated in what they discover during a regression. Many have life-changing epiphanies that allow them to realise their true purpose this time around. Others leave with a new-found respect for their family, friends and even those who they are not so fond of. Everyone has a purpose and I believe this is one of the most effective methods of finding out what that is.

I am looking forward to sharing future blog posts on this subject with you to allow more education on this process and to dispel fears that are holding you back from discovering your true inner self.