Time is an Illusion


Have you ever noticed yourself saying “I don’t have time”?

I know I used to do that constantly. It seemed like there were never enough hours in the day to go to work, spend time with family, do stuff for myself and still have energy left over. I felt like a mouse on one of those spinning wheel things.

Then it all changed.

I began to realise that time is an illusion and if want to we can bend it. I’m sure you’ve experienced an exciting day in your life when 8 or 9 hours slipped past and it felt like only one hour. Or perhaps when you were looking forward to something, the days and hours seemed to drag on forever before the event was there. Time is all relative, hence Einstein’s theory of relativity.

Einstein believed that everything happens simultaneously and if you were to have a rocket ship that could travel at the speed of light you would experience past, present and future all at once, as opposed to someone who’s just standing on the ground.

But obviously we don’t have a rocket ship – however we do have our consciousness.

It is possible to time travel to the past, present and future by expanding your consciousness. You can then see quite clearly every experience you’ve had and will have and can relate these experiences to what’s happening now.

I know people say, “what’s the point of seeing past lives, they’re in the past, all that matters is the present”.

I agree with that, because all we have is the now, but past and future are all part of it. So it’s really pointless to dwell on the past and obsess about the future because we’ve already created them and are living them simultaneously.

However, most people don’t have the ability to consciously see everything happening at once, so this is where travelling within our minds to the past or future can explain and clear things that are blocking the now from happening the way we want them to.

As far as not having enough time in a day, if you have lots of things you have to get done, just ask for more time. Just ask, set intentions and the universe will provide. You’ll be amazed how much you can achieve and when you look at your watch you’ll think that time must have stood still for a while.

Like I said – time is an illusion.


Love Is Timeless

Although I consider Valentine’s Day to be rather a commercial occasion, I do like the way it reminds people to focus on love. It seems there is too much exposure given to the ugly things going on in the world, and not enough time devoted to the heart-warming stories out there. I do enjoy seeing all the romantic gestures that take place all around me on February 14th. Have you noticed that when people show this more sensitive side of themselves to others, that it appears to be contagious?

There is no reason why every day shouldn’t feel like Valentine’s Day. Love is something so special but too often taken for granted. If you don’t have someone special in your life to love romantically, it feels like everybody else around you does and you yearn to complete yourself by finding your other half. When you do have someone, too often you’re not appreciating how important they are to you. The everyday stresses of life can get in the way and often people find it hard to just be with their significant other appreciating what they have. Issues with work, children, family, money, illness start to interfere and leave you wondering why your relationship isn’t what it used to be. The priorities become messed up.

Love is a timeless thing and just like a garden, requires cultivation. Often your life partner has taken the journey with you through many lifetimes, always supporting and always loving you. There would have been many times when you have lost them, grieved for that loss but deep down buried in your subconscious you knew that one day in another place and another time, you would be reunited. When they show up you recognise them and continue your journey. However, even the closest of soul mates need to be mindful of keeping their love alive. It is all part of the soul’s journey and personal growth that comes from learning the lessons from times that are not so easy.

If you are lucky enough to have found your true romantic soul mate then don’t allow any outside forces to destroy that. Love really does conquer all. It is the most important thing there is, and the number one thing that I’ve found most people want in life. In fact, to me the measure of success in life is how much you have loved. It is not about your status in the community or how much money you’ve accumulated. It is as simple as how much you have loved.

So Valentine’s Day is over for another year, but we don’t really need an excuse to spread love. And not just love to a romantic partner. Everyone needs love. Children, other family members, work colleagues, friends, pets, in fact every living being, so let’s make it our mission to open our hearts and give what we can to others, especially those who are struggling. It could be a smile, a thoughtful gesture or something much more significant. It really does make a difference. And don’t forget about yourself. If you love yourself unconditionally, you give everyone else permission to love themselves too. If you want to change the world, change yourself.

Dealing With Expectations

I’m sure you have all experienced the excitement of looking forward to an upcoming event – perhaps an overseas holiday, a special party, a training course. You build up in your mind exactly how you think it’s going to go. If you’ve put a lot of planning or thought into it, then of course you have positive expectations. But how often have you gone on that special holiday and it’s rained every day or you became sick? Or perhaps the party wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. You didn’t like the food, or the people or the music. And what about that training course? In your mind you were going to become an expert in that field instantly, but instead you didn’t find it was something you would want to pursue. You left feeling deflated and having to re-evaluate your goals.

These are just a few examples. There are many more situations where we have expectations, even just of conversations we are going to have with people. They don’t end up saying what you want to hear. Conversely, most people also have negative expectations of situations. We spend our precious time becoming worried and stressed about something, only to find that it was not really a problem at all. In fact the very thing that incessantly plagued our thoughts is forgotten a week later. Sound familiar?

So where do expectations come from? I think they arise because we want to achieve a certain outcome. Our ego gets in the way and wants to be controlling. As you probably know however, the universe does not always deliver what we want or think we need. In truth, our higher self knows the answers, but many times we are not in touch with it or just aren’t listening.

Expectations usually come from past experience. These experiences may not even have come from this lifetime. Events from previous lives have a way of influencing us, and we are not even consciously aware of why we behave and think the way we do. Our brain is just wired to react the way it did last time. However, sometimes things happen a certain way to teach us a lesson. Let’s face it, when something goes wrong it does have a way of making us look at the same thing differently the next time it happens. The way we choose to react will have an impact on our growth. We can choose to be angry, disillusioned or sad, or we can choose to be grateful that we’ve learned something new, perhaps how to be more resourceful or to think differently so that we will not have the same automatic negative reaction the next time.

I have a new strategy now. I have realised that I cannot control everything in my life. I can make plans and put things into place, but now instead of expecting a certain outcome, I just trust that whatever happens is going to be for my highest good. In fact I go into each new situation and event without any expectations. It’s like having a blank piece of paper in your head. You can write a new story for yourself as you go along, instead of going into an experience with the story already written in your head. It’s surprising what will happen when you’re just able to let go and allow. Usually I am pleasantly surprised with the outcomes using this method. I've learned to be more flexible and prepared to move outside my comfort zone.

After all, if you have no expectations then there is no disappointment, there is just experience. You will notice that the repeated patterns you usually follow will start to change and become something different. You will find that you don’t need to control everything, because you can’t anyway, so you will go in different, more exciting directions. Like it or not, life is a continuing journey of lessons and understandings towards our personal growth – so why not choose to go with the flow and see where you end up?

Feeling Grateful

You know how some days everything just works and you get that warm fuzzy feeling inside that someone out there is looking after you? Do you ever notice what you were thinking about right before that happens? At these times I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude. It reminds me that even when things may not seem to be going well, it is still important to find something to be grateful for.  I know some days that’s difficult so perhaps it will just be that the sun is shining, you have food in your fridge to nourish you, or you have a comfortable bed to escape to and hope that tomorrow will be a better day. Whatever is going on in your life, there is always something positive to be found somewhere. Sometimes we just need to look a little harder to find it.

I believe gratitude is the thing that keeps us in a state of love. And the funny thing about it is that the more we acknowledge what we have to be grateful for, the more positivity and abundance will be delivered to us. As you probably know, you create your own life circumstances based on your thoughts and beliefs. You will receive whatever it is that you focus on the most. So if you are constantly complaining about how unfulfilling your job is, that your partner does not respect you, that you don’t have enough time or money to do the things you want to do, how tired you are, then guess what, that’s what you will get. If you affirm to your higher self that these circumstances are what defines you, it doesn’t know the difference between what you want and what you don’t want, it will just give you back what you put most of your attention into.

So it’s obvious that if you don’t want these things, then focus on what you do want as though you already have it. Look for the positive things in your workplace, appreciate what you do love about your partner, be grateful for the small things in life that are free and energise you, such as going for a long walk in nature, having a long, soothing bath, listening to music or just spending quality time with your loved ones. Slow down, laugh, dance, play. Tell yourself daily how grateful you are for all the abundance in your life. Affirm to yourself that every day in every way your life is becoming better and better. You’ll be amazed at how things will turn around.

Sometimes we just need to slow right down, change our focus and realise that we can have whatever we want. Most of the things we worry about never happen. It’s easier to accept the bad with the good because there’s a grand plan that’s not always obvious while we’re in the middle of it, but ultimately things usually work out the way they’re meant to and for our highest good. I'm sure you've heard all of this before, but sometimes we just need to be reminded. So what do you feel grateful for today?

Where Do Fears and Phobias Come From?

Everyone has suffered from one – to some degree. It may be a fear of snakes or spiders, heights, confined spaces, flying, storms, public speaking. These are just a few of the more common ones but there are actually hundreds of documented phobias, some quite extraordinary, anything from fear of mirrors (catoptrophobia)  to fear of belly buttons (omphalophobia) to fear of being buried alive (taphophobia). Have you ever wondered where these unusual phobias come from?

A phobia is defined as “an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something” rather than just a dislike. People with a phobia will go out of their way to avoid these situations which, depending on what that is, can be rather debilitating to their ability to lead a normal life.

Some phobias can be traced back to a childhood event. My daughter was playing with the leaves of a palm tree when she was about eight years old. As she stripped off a loose frond she was showered in a horde of around 50 baby cockroaches which had been happily residing in the tree. That was a very traumatic experience for her as a young child, and naturally she went on to have a fear of creepy crawlies (especially cockroaches). That is perfectly understandable. However, some people have no such experience to trace their phobia back to.

I have worked with many people suffering different kinds of phobias and we can often isolate the source from a past life experience. Did you know that these can be treated quite easily just by remembering the event, and the good news is, without having to re-experience the trauma. Take my last example above. Do you think having a fear of being buried alive is something you could just pick up in this lifetime? One client who comes to mind was buried alive in a mining quarry when there was a cave in. He was suffering from claustrophobia and anxiety. When he tried to regress, the memory was initially too traumatic for him so he didn’t see anything. However, he admitted that he had suffered with nightmares about being buried alive. Sometimes when we have something traumatic affecting us, our subconscious tries to get through to us in dreams to communicate the message.  This man wanted his nightmares to stop and wanted to feel confident in any situation so he persevered with past life regression. When he was finally able to observe this event from a distance during a regression, he was able to move on from it by agreeing under hypnosis to acknowledge it, let it go and not allow that memory to affect his current life. He is now free of his claustrophobia and is a much happier man today.

Think about some of the events in past times that could explain many of today’s phobias and it’s not so surprising. If we pass on from those lives and allow these traumatic experiences to stay with us, then we can be held back. The mind is a powerful tool and contains so many memories we don’t have access to (sometimes for our own protection), but with a little bit of assistance, can be brought into our consciousness and healed.


Are You Finding Life A Challenge?

Do you have a person or a situation in your life that constantly challenges you? No matter how hard you try to deal with it, just when you think it’s all under control and you have a positive outlook, something else happens to bring you right back down again? This is the ebb and flow of life. These people and situations are there to teach lessons, but sometimes don’t you just wish you could have a lesson-free month? I know I do.

The reality is that life can’t be positive all the time. If every day was perfect we would lose sight of what that represents. The only reason we appreciate good days is because we compare them to the bad days, which makes them so much sweeter. The key is to be grateful for every experience, good or bad, because they are all happening for a reason. They are all designed to help us learn and grow.

As part of the growth process we need to be mindful of the fact that we could be unconsciously sabotaging our happiness because a past life experience is at the root of our problem. Past life regression really does give valuable insight into why we are the way we are. Some people are a little afraid of what they might find when they start delving into the past. However, the unconscious mind is protective and will only show you what you need to learn at a particular time. Otherwise, you would just remember every past life and recognise every person you have ever met – the loved ones and the ones who have wronged you. We don’t need to know all of that information. We only need to discover the parts that affect our future growth.  Perhaps these are the parts that we have become stuck with because we never moved on.

We don’t remember every single thing we’ve experienced even in this lifetime. We only retain the parts that are significant to our learning. We know that we have had many experiences as we’ve grown and have learned from them, without having to remember every event. It’s the same with past lives. So don’t be afraid to allow your mind to open up to the information that is required to help you grow because it’s valuable and potentially vital to your future success.

For example, it is easier to deal with relationships issues when you understand that these are ongoing over many lifetimes. Perhaps that over-protective parent may not seem quite so annoying once you know that in a past life they had witnessed your death and not been able to prevent it. Or it explains why you can have an intense, almost irrational attraction to someone you barely know. You could find out why you dislike whole races or cultures of people or why when you travel, you know exactly where to go in places you have never visited before. The possibilities and benefits are endless.

We are all part of a giant universal school with every lifetime being a different grade. We work our way up from kindergarten and eventually reach university where we graduate from the school of life – some people call this “enlightenment”.  

If you are fearful of what you might find, remember you don’t have to experience pain or trauma again. You’ve done that already. You only need to recognise the events and the lessons which can very effectively allow physical, emotional and psychological healing. This allows you to move on and achieve your highest goals and live your happiest life. Most people are curious and fascinated in what they discover during a regression. Many have life-changing epiphanies that allow them to realise their true purpose this time around. Others leave with a new-found respect for their family, friends and even those who they are not so fond of. Everyone has a purpose and I believe this is one of the most effective methods of finding out what that is.

I am looking forward to sharing future blog posts on this subject with you to allow more education on this process and to dispel fears that are holding you back from discovering your true inner self.