Sometimes in life, things just fall into place, and other times they are just plain hard work. This often happens with relationships. You meet someone and have an attraction. You may even go out on a couple of dates. But then suddenly all kinds of road blocks start to appear. You have a special evening planned but suddenly there is an emergency at home you need to deal with or you have to work late. Then perhaps the other person has to go away on business and won’t be back until the day after you have to go somewhere. It just seems like the universe conspires to keep you apart. This is exactly what I think is happening when situations like this arise. Perhaps the universe is trying to tell you that you are making a bad decision and for your own benefit, helps to keep you from making a mistake by ensuring things are difficult. Of course, more often than not, we persevere anyway and then later down the track realise we should have listened to that guidance.
When something is right, there will be no obstacles. Even situations that appear to be impossible, suddenly work in your favour. You will find yourself in the same place at the same time with someone you’re destined to be with. You won’t have to try and manipulate a situation so you can be together. It will just happen naturally and you will be left wondering why it was all so easy and so perfect. These are the situations where you find yourself mouthing to nobody in particular “thank you” for bringing x, y, z into my life!
The same can happen with jobs. You go to an interview for what you think is the perfect job, but you get stuck in traffic and arrive late. Or the interviewer needs to re-schedule because they get sick at the last minute. Listen to your gut and if it doesn't seem right, heed the warning. It could save you a lot of time and frustration. The perfect job will be the one where everything runs smoothly. You connect immediately with the interviewer and leave with an inner knowing that you’ve found the right thing for you. Never underestimate the power of intuition.
We all have free will but I believe at the end of the day there is a bigger picture that we don’t immediately see. There is some degree of fate or pre-destiny at work. How many times have you looked back on a situation and thought about all the events that happened to get you to your desired outcome? There is no such thing as coincidence.
So if you’re experiencing any kind of doubt about a decision, or anything just seems too hard, then my advice would be to look elsewhere, even though you may want it really badly. In the long run you will find the right person or the right job or any other kind of life decision, and be comfortable and satisfied with what you get. And you will save an awful lot of time and disappointment in the process. Remember you choose the life you want before you’re born and you choose the people you want to share it with, so don’t waste time following a dead end path.